Stuck in the past? Re living old times!

[Onetwothree33]

I have been thinking a lot about my childhood days recently and decided to look up a few people that I lost touch with over the years after moving abroad.
After doing this, I was shocked to find someone I used to really like had died in an accident about a year ago. This has left me feeling gutted for the past week and I can’t seem the shake it… Obviously any death is sad, especially when the person is young.. but I hadn’t had any contact with this person in over 20 years.
It’s not that I’m just sad at the initial news, it’s affected my mood all week to the point where I’m thinking it’s a bit ridiculous for it to bring me down so much..
I’m now stuck in a loop of thinking about my younger days, when there’s nothing particularly bad about my present.. does anyone else do this / will it just pass (?!)

Yes I do, and it will pass. What’s made you think about your childhood recently? Are you having therapy?
When I started having therapy and talking lots about my childhood I had similar feelings and they were quite consuming.

Yes, I do this. Started buying old books and annuals that I had as a child too. Just started counselling, it’s been eye opening. I don’t like endings of things, especially where I haven’t chosen the ending (eg, like when I got made redundant), never have.

Thank you for your reply :)
I’m not having therapy no, I think it started as a result of seeing my old friend had lost her Dad recently - another friend from teen years, then I started down the rabbit hole of thinking about all the other people I was around in them years! I’m just not sure why I am obsessing so much over it instead of living in the present.. as you say it seems quite all consuming to the point it’s affecting my day to day mood. I hope therapy has helped you.

That’s interesting! Do you think you buy the annuals etc to bring you back to them memories? Maybe I’m the same, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with having a think/ reminisce about the past, I just feel like it’s becoming a bit obsessive if it’s affecting how I feel in the present .. and that’s not quite right(?) hopefully it will pass