How do you cope with teens when you have anxiety and depression?

[Peterbear]

Just that really. Have had anxiety and depression for 30 odd years - take meds and am generally ok and good at managing things. Every now and then though things erupt and I end up losing it with my younger (v self absorbed)teen.Then feel even more depressed and worry she's going to learn 'poor mental health ' from me.She already says I have given her mental health problems but has no empathy for me at all.she tells me no other mum lies in bed crying all day. (Which is rare but does happen).It's so hard. Anyone else.??

Anyone??

Hi OP. I’d say pick your battles when you can.
Teenagers often don’t have a great deal of empathy as it is, thinking more of themselves and how they feel.
Keep lines of communication open whilst been supportive and showing kindness and consideration (even if you don’t feel like it). Best of luck.

When I was a teenager I never thought about mental health or anyone but myself as I was too into the usual teen things. Upon growing older I realised I had issues and used alcohol and going out/sports to escape.

I had an abusive father so mentally had to close up and then be strong.

Its probably best (although not easy) to talk and discuss. Maybe they are worried about you and clam up not to get hurt or hurt you.

I know its not easy, but try to leave little messages to your kids like you love them and are proud of them. Even just spend a little time doing games in the house or nice walks etc.

Dont be too hard on yourself.

Thanks the replies. Xx much appreciated. It's hard supporting teens when you've not got much in the tank yourself. X