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Hoping for any advice

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toutelamerde · 02/03/2023 16:55

For how to get through the days really. I didn’t know where to post this, the other boards can be a bit scary. I’ve come out of an abusive relationship recently that lasted several years, but I didn’t realise how bad it actually was. Recently my ex partner did something that triggered a series of events meaning I had to speak to police (as he sent them to my house), eventually meaning I had to discuss details of sexual abuse alongside a host of other things that I had vowed never to speak about. This was a little over a week ago. Since then, things have gone silent from every professional that works with me, despite me trying to make contact: and it’s caused me to fall apart inside. I know I will hear from them in time. But I can’t focus on anything because if I try I just break down; because I remember everything all over again, and I also feel stupid for saying anything at all. I know there are people that use this site that have been though the wars and all this would be nothing in comparison. What do you do when you can’t give any more? I have two young children and, given the circumstances in which they were conceived, the anxiety and despair I feel sometimes when I look at them is actually killing me inside. I honestly wish I had kept my mouth shut.

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GreyaSlipereva · 02/03/2023 20:22

I don’t have much advice to offer but I do offer my sympathy. It sounds like you have been through a tough time.

Have you thought about phoning the Samaritans? Just looked up the number 116 123.

toutelamerde · 03/03/2023 04:50

@GreyaSlipereva thank you. I’ve tried calling them, a few times actually. But I get too anxious and hang up.

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Sammz21 · 03/03/2023 05:49

Hi, try getting a piece of paper and writing down how you feel.
It doesn't need to be full sentences, just key words/phrases.
Maybe put on some nice music, make a hot drink & just write
I know this helps me sometimes💐
Be very gentle with yourself, just get the basics done re your kids, until you feel a bit stronger.

toutelamerde · 03/03/2023 08:53

@Sammz21 That’s actually a really lovely practical thing I can try tonight after the children go to sleep. Thank you so much.

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crossstitchingnana · 03/03/2023 11:26

Feelings triggered from past events belong in the past. Remind yourself of the here and now (go for a walk, think about your senses and what you can see, hear, feel etc).

Good luck

Sammz21 · 04/03/2023 04:05

hey, just wondering how you are doing? x

toutelamerde · 04/03/2023 07:12

@Sammz21 I’m better today than I was the other day, thank you so much. I’ll admit seeing some things in writing was very difficult, but it was worth letting go of that particular fear for the night in order to get some sleep. I did end up ripping up the paper afterwards though…. Thank you x

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Sammz21 · 04/03/2023 08:34

that's good to hear x

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