Falling in love on anti depressants?

[James637]

A bit random I know but I’m worried that going on anti depressants will affect my emotions so I can’t fall in love. I’ve read online this is a common side effect with the blunting that comes with them.

Has anyone had any good or bad experiences? 🙈

Cheers,
James

Some people say it dulls emotions a bit but I can think of nothing worse for a relationship than depression.

I feel happy and content and calm on anti depressants.

So I have anxiety rather than depression but medication is the same (ssris) so it feels like more of a trade off if I could just deal with the anxiety without them I guess

I take for anxiety too. They have been wonderful.

I have been on 40mg Citalopram for years to manage my OCD.

It has had zero impact on anything but that. Almost 4 years ago I met and fell head over heels for DP.

I was on anti depressants when I got together with my partner and that was years ago now. So no it hasn't affected my ability to fall in love. I feel my emotions, sometimes more than I'd like if I'm honest.

What are you taking? I have falling in love taking fluoxetine. It’s not dampened my emotions other than taken the bad feelings away

Escitalopram 15mg!

James, you should be fine. If anything, anxiety hinders falling in love more than meds do.

My husband and I met, fell in love and got married on antidepressants - both still on them now 5 years later and still in love 😆

I think it really depends on the particular antidepressants - I know my husband was on one (can't remember the name) that he said rendered him an emotionless zombie basically, but I think that was the REALLY strong stuff that they wouldn't put you on straight away.

I'm on Mirtazapine and my husband is on Trazadone and we both feel it makes us just like us, but a less depressed, less anxious version of us.

I hope so! There’s just so many people saying they turned them to zombies online!

I can only hope so!!

Anyone else any experiences??

How are you doing these days, OP?

Don't worry. I take a very high dose of Venlafaxine and an anti psychotic and I still like a lovely guy at work (trying to ignore how I feel as he's very out of my league).

I was on SSRIs when I fell in love with my partner!

Mind you they do mess with libido and orgasms which is annoying 🙄

I’m ok, just bad anxiety about the future! Can’t stop thinking! Hence the meds! 🙈

Feel like I just need to ‘man up’ but it’s hard and I’m not sure therapy stuff works

That’s good to hear! I think SNRIs work differently and are less numbing from what I’ve read

Are you having any therapy as well?
I met my ExP whilst on setraline, we were together for years after I’ve come off them, it didn’t stop me having a relationship, quite the contrary:)

Just remember what love is and be vulnerable and true to yourself. Wishing you all the best.

SSRI’s switch off the fight or flight instinct to give you time to catch up with the anxiety, but it doesn’t turn you into a robot :)

I totally understand. You are doing good.

It helps if one's focus is outwards rather than inwards (circular thinking)

You don't need to man up, you are a human being and taking small steps. That's ace 🙂

Personally I didn't benefit from therapy much though I'm sure there are others who had better experience