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On the receiving end of my partners many mood swings

10 replies

Wilff · 22/02/2023 19:54

My partner is becoming more verbally aggressive with his anger.
His reasons are irrational and unpredictable.

Hes never been even close to getting physical towards me until I got home from work yesterday to find him raging & swearing that the dinner had got cold .
I explained that it took longer to drive back due to the many temporary lights/ road works. Still barely through the front door with my shoes still on , he suddenly grabbed my neck with one hand ,up against the wall and opened the kitchen drawer with the other hand, then held a large bladed knife at my forehead.
I kept still, silent & calm. until he retreated still shouting & swearing at me.
A didn't react so as to not provoke . I backed gently out the door and ran to my car, with him following. i booked into a local hotel for the night.
At 5am he called, crying about a monster he is and that i didn't deserve that. He kept saying he was sorry and didn't mean any of it & that he loves me so much.
I barely responded , saying best to just get some sleep.

I've returned today , hes acting like nothing happened.
From my perspective I'm a bit numb and don't know what to do, if anything?

He's been on Citalopram for almost a year and now Sertraline for a few months.

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WeWereInParis · 22/02/2023 19:56

Jesus, your thread title slightly understates the issue! Are you ok?
I wouldn’t be staying. Is there somewhere else you can go?

MaireadMcSweeney · 22/02/2023 19:58

Call the police and have him arrested and removed from the house!!!

Wilff · 22/02/2023 20:02

Bless you.

I reckon my brain is possibly trying to down play it also didn't want to come across as a drama queen

You see this sort of thing on the TV but I never thought it would happen to me.

I don't want to upset my family or be a burden or worry for them.
I've asked my landlord if I can pay up and terminate lease earlier than the usual 4 weeks. He has agreed.

But I am very scared about How to leave because there will be retaliation.

😞

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Wilff · 22/02/2023 20:03

I definitely don't want to involve police.

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GroggyLegs · 22/02/2023 20:05

You can't undo what's just happened & you'll live in fear.

The relationship you previously had is over.

Stressybetty · 22/02/2023 20:06

You can't stay there waiting for the next time he loses control.

GroggyLegs · 22/02/2023 20:07

Did not ask permission. Just get the car keys & go to your mum's, friends, work mate, a premier inn....Wherever you feel safe, to get support & gather your thoughts.

As a mum, I'd rather be burdened to hell & back than see my child in an abusive relationship.

Wilff · 22/02/2023 20:10

Absolutely
That is True.
Your spot on

I now need to keep a rational & level head to extract myself from living under the same roof. Quickly but preferably without him finding out before I have somewhere else to go.

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tryinto · 22/02/2023 20:33

erm, please contact the Police maybe? This is so serious!

Grabbing you by the neck? That's not joking about, being a little angry or "being a stressed" behaviour - it is completely lacking in control and dangerous !

He needs to take his MH more seriously and get proper treatment for the severity of his moods and behaviour.

you need to think about how to remove yourself from this relationship and keep yourself safe. he is a safety risk !

CleaningOutMyCloset · 22/02/2023 20:34

Police now!

This will also help with Amy 'repercussions' you might think will happen

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