DH has (health) anxiety and depression. Since he was diagnosed and began sertraline 2 years ago we've seen a really good shift in his mental health but two or three times a year he has a depressive episode that can be quite difficult on us all. He becomes quite closed off, he outwardly appears disinterested in DC, he only pays attention to his phone, and all the little things like hygiene, sleep, helping around this house slip and he stops engaging in everything.
I too have been going through a bit of a down period myself thanks to SAD and my anxiety feels high at the moment but I feel like I'm coming out the other side of it which is a relief. I feel like I've been keeping it together pretty well though. I show up for the kids, DH and with all those things that need done around the house, even at my worst. I only mention this to highlight that I understand some of his struggles and not to compare or be negative about him. He's truly wonderful and I feel so sorry for him that he's struggling.
The only thing is, when I too am feeling it, I dont know how best to help DH with his. I know that a lot of this current episode is stemming from job dissatisfaction and waiting to hear back from jobs that he's applied for that he desperately wants. Being that the cause is completely out of his, and my, control I don't know in what ways I can best help him right now. I want to do something nice for him that will help him feel even just a little better, or employ strategies that could help. Any suggestions?