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Struggling with myself

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lostinfusion · 14/02/2023 13:09

Not sure why i'm posting but just struggling with mental health for a while now. I just feel that my life is worthless & I'm just not sure what the point of it is as my life just seems so boring. I am married to a lovely guy but no children except for DSS (17) who visits every other weekend but life just seems so pointless & like there must be more to life than this, I just feel so down. I have a great job with lovely people but even there I keep making really stupid errors which I end up beating myself up over. I just don't know how to get out of this funk, today I thought to myself that I really wouldn't care if I just died.

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Eyesopenwideawake · 14/02/2023 22:13

I end up beating myself up

The only outcome of that is you end up beaten. Imagine that tomorrow morning you find you've lost the ability to criticise yourself. It's gone; you can't do it anymore. Other people can but your inner voice has vanished. How would that change your life?

It's very true that for the vast majority of us life is humdrum, repetitive and - whisper - pretty boring. But the upside of that it rhythm, certainty, routine; without these things life wouldn't be boring but it would be very stressful very quickly - think of the life of a woman in Turkey, Syria or Ukraine right now.

Given absolute free rein with no constraints, what would your life look like? What makes your pulse quicken? Are there any small daily pleasures or rituals you look forward to?

lostinfusion · 15/02/2023 09:35

thank you for your reply, you've given me some great food for thought. I really need to find some simple things or hobbies that give me pleasure & have decided to start a gratitude journal which may help.

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cushioncovers · 15/02/2023 09:47

How old are you op? Could this be the beginning of the menopause. I noticed a significant change in my mood and enthusiasm to do anything when I hit late forties.

Isheabastard · 15/02/2023 09:54

I have had times when I’ve had depression, namely post natal depression. At that time I lost all motivation but more importantly I lost the ability to just cope with normal stuff. I finally want to the doctor and was prescribed Prozac and I literally felt so much better in just two weeks.

Then at other times I have just felt both overwhelmed and underwhelmed with life at the same time. Learning how to be happy, or maybe even just content is one of the biggest blessings in life.

Theres a fine line between being too busy and not busy enough. Some people need to have a goal in front of them all the time, others like to have the opposite.

You are a good age to discover what makes you content as you can use this for the rest of your life. I’m susceptible to SAD so I use a light box and take vit D. There is evidence to say that your gut micobiome can influence your mental health. Some exercise, socialising, hobbies etc are all recommended.

I would suggest you read up online anything to help you out of this rut and remember what works for another person may not work for you.

Im an introvert so my idea of hell is a loud party but for another person, planning a massive shindig is what gets them going.

Hobbies and a gratitude journal are a really good start.

lostinfusion · 15/02/2023 13:06

I'm 50 & have been on HRT for a couple of years but actually haven't felt myself since starting menopause

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cushioncovers · 15/02/2023 15:43

I would suggest talking to your doctor about a low dose of antidepressants.

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