Can’t stop being violent when angry

[Angrybird09]

I’ve always been hot tempered but I seem to be getting more and more violent when I’m angry.

When I get frustrated it really sets me off. Eg DH and I were trying to buy a house and it was very difficult, emails from solicitors would make me so angry I would throw my
phone at a wall or kick things. I’ve also slapped myself in the face before or pinched myself and drawn blood.

I don’t think I would be violent to DH but it upsets him when he sees me in a rage like this. Afterwards I feel exhausted. Is anyone else like this? I don’t know how to stop myself, it’s like I have a wall of rage building in me. Deep breaths don’t work.

Have you spoken to your doctor? I know waiting lists for mental health support are ridiculously long at the moment, but you should see if you can get on the list.

I have found that if I'm around ovulation time, or around PMT time I get irrationally angry over things. Sometimes justifiable things but the urge to hit out can be overwhelming so we have a punch bag in the garage.

It's only really started since my late 30s/early 40s. I feel hot and the rage burns inside me and I flip out or cry in frustration.

I think you need to speak to your doctor to get help, it’s likely a multi faceted approach of,medication and counselling.

mental illness is nothing to be ashamed of, we are past that, so pick up the phone

I am on my period but I get these episodes weekly so it’s not that. I’ve always had a very hot and short temper and it’s usually from being disappointed or let down rather than another persons actions. Im not sure the best coping mechanism.