38yo, 10wks pregnant with 3rd child, extreme nausea and experiencing social isolation at work

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Hi

I'm approx 10 weeks pregnant and experiencing the most awful nausea, which over the course of the last month has made me gain so much weight because eating is the only thing keeping the nausea at bay.

It's an awful wicked cycle and it's made me so depressed that I can barely function. Doing things as simple as putting in my clothes in the morning has been so painful. I can't bare the thought of going outside and seeing people. To top it off my work colleagues have been keeping me out of some events at work and I am only finding out about them via social media. I was so upset last week when I saw that all the women in my team went out for a function and I wasn't even extended an invitation !! I cried so much that day I started to feel abdominal pains and having panic attacks.

Only my line manager knows I'm pregnant, no one else does. I have been suffering with this social isolation for awhile now, ever since speaking up for myself when someone was trying to not give me credit for work I had done.

I'm really scared that this depression is being exacerbated by things happening at work. I just can't handle it :(

I'm going to my first midwife appointment today - does anyone know if midwife's give sicknotes for work? I need some time away from work as I really feel as though my stress and anxiety caused by them will hurt me and my baby. I really hate calling my GP because they're so unhelpful and never answer their phone.

Advice?

Sorry to hear about that OP. I had nausea throughout my first trimester and it was brutal. Yes a midwife can give out sick notes.

Regarding the work situation, have you raised this with your manager? This is not acceptable in the workplace and if you want to continue working there then something needs to be done about it now.

Join a union if you haven't already just in case things get nasty. It's so unfortunate that you have to deal with this as well as not feeling your best.

Thanks for the advice 🙏🏼 I look forward to asking the midwife for a note today. I just need some time to focus on myself and not on people who are making me feel worse. I really hope this nausea and general feeling of ickyness goes away 😩