School Mums

[CheekyMonkey1989]

Does anyone really struggle?

I’ve tried so hard to fit in 😔 I think I’m getting somewhere with someone then I just get blanked. I’ve just come home from taking my DD5 to a birthday party and it was such a lonely experience. I went to the toilet at one point and cried. A bit of background info I do struggle with anxiety but I have really tried to come out of my comfort zone but now I just feel like I’m the weird loner mum nobody wants to be seen with.

Anyone else struggle to fit in?

I don’t understand why you want to fit in? Potentially the only thing you have in common is a child of a similar age. Lovely if you do make friends with someone, but no loss if not.

I'm so sorry that you've had such a rough day . I've got three older ones and can honestly say this was me for many years -- I just don't know want it is that makes the pack mentality from school return for some. It's not you it's age old problem.. I found some lovely kind friends eventually who were not part of the clique but it took a while and a lot of tears...

Sorry you’ve had a hard afternoon.

I am the same OP. I seem to be the only parent at pickup who stands alone. It’s really hard at times xx

It’s def not personal to you as you sound lovely but do you need to fit in with them or be friends though?

im not and couldn’t care less tbh as I have my own friends and family I care about.

Don't let it bother you. I only make it to 1 drop off and pick up once a week due to work so I've never had the opportunity to make friends. I already have friends so don't why I need to make friends with them just because they are school mums. Society adds the pressure that you have to make mum friends. You don't have to

oh bet it feels crap … some schools are particularly bad at this , extremely click mentality at the gates

you’re not alone

if you really want to get more friendships etc volunteering to be a Rep or help with Parent Association will help

but I must say I did all that, yes it brought friends etx but after a couple of years , I went back to where I was … really really not worth it ! You kid’s well being, progress and friendships are eventually what ll make you happy

good luck x