Hello again.
Yes I have tinnitus and I can't say I'm thrilled by it, but meditation has helped me get used to it. Its funny how focusing on the ringing actually makes it more bearable than trying to ignore it. I dont really have any choice though :)
I've tried every AD family there is. I also tried beta blockers for my anxiety, but they were stopping my breathing (I'm asthmatic) so I couldn't continue. Unfortunately for me, every AD gave me worse side effects than any benefits. The benefits were negligible in as much as I was walking about like a zombie and okay I wasn't anxious, but I wasn't much of anything, including any good at my job.
Citalopram gave me sexual dysfunction and very rapid anger (someone killed their wife while on the drug and was found not guilty as it was due to the drug), prozac gave me a host of side effects including dizziness, memory problems, difficulty thinking and restless leg. The restless leg issue has never fully gone away years later. Fluoxetine made me angry and suicidal and mirtazapine did the same (plus it made me very angry). Going onto them was very unpleasant each time (lot of brain snaps and dizziness etc) and coming off them was even worse. So, for me, they did not help my anxiety and I believe they've caused long lasting harm to my brain.
If I had to pick one to recommend, it would be fluoxetine as its the only one AD which has got any evidence that it works (albeit it with teenagers). None of the others have got any conclusive evidence that they are any better than a placebo.
With my anxiety I found that stopping alcohol (which I think was my original issue as I used it to mask my anxiety), drinking more water (do I ever get anxious when I'm dehydrated), eating properly (or taking supplements), magnesium (I dont eat foods that have it and its linked to migraines which I get), exercise, meditation and CBT/DBT have all helped. Of them all, I think quitting alcohol, drinking water and meditation have been the biggest help.
It sounds like you've been through a lot with your infections and I'm surprised that you are still suffering pain from an infection that was 3 years ago, but Dr's know best I guess.
Sounds like a lot of your problems are possibly due to anxiety (obviously not the infections). I'd try looking after yourself more and trying to relax. Look at mindfulness and look at what you're putting into your body as you really are what you eat.