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i think i have bpd

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anna2688 · 18/01/2023 21:09

hello everyone, i am 18 and i think i have bpd. I've been wondering this for almost 2 years. It all started a little before confinement, I started having anxiety attacks. It got worse after the confinement and the crises became very violent, it prevented me from leaving my house and I was very bad, I had lost a little weight and I was very stressed. After that it calmed down but I started having panic attacks in high school. In the summer of 2021, I thought my condition couldn't get that much worse, but I was wrong. I started having kind of mood swings, in one day I could feel sadness, joy, fear, stress. I felt the emotions in very strong ways and they changed very quickly. the sadness made me cry, I felt like it was the end of the world, my chest was tight as if I was being compressed. Then it lasted a few days, and then I felt him empty, as if detached from my body. either it was all, or nothing. I had trouble doing simple daily tasks and had dark thoughts.

a few months later was added extreme anger. I feel lost, I feel like I don´t know who I am or what I like. sometimes I probe "why am I here?" ".

Where i meet people I get attached very quickly but end up often disappointed because I have the impression that it is only me who invest myself in a relationship.

I am also very sensitive, my moods are based on those others, i absorb all their emotions. I need to isolate sometimes because its too much.
When someone does something I don't like I get angry very quickly but don't say anything, sometimes giving silent treatment. After I feel very guilty.
I love getting attention from others, but feel bad when they ignore me.
I just feel bored and numb all the time.
I am afraid to bring the topic up with a therapist because sometimes i say to myself “imagine you are faking it?” i know its stupid but it’s like that
im sorry for the long text

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frostyfours · 18/01/2023 23:49

Bumping for you x

ArianahX · 19/01/2023 19:00

If you want to pursue a diagnosis then see your GP who may refer you to the Community mental health services.
The treatment for BPD (or EUPD as it is more often known in the UK) is DBT Dialectical Behavioural Therapy.

To be honest though there is a stigma attached to having BPD and it's very wise to be careful not to label yourself without an official diagnosis.

MajesticWhine · 19/01/2023 20:27

You are quite young to get a diagnosis of personality disorder. I don't want to sound patronising but you can develop and change a lot into your 20s. Are you in England? I advise you to self refer to your local NHS talking therapy service and ask for help with your symptoms. Tell them you are worried about BPD/ EUPD. They will do a proper assessment and if they feel you need a psychiatric assessment and diagnosis they will refer you. But in most cases they would probably recommend trying some therapy first. For example CBT for anxiety and panic attacks, and to manage your mood.
I don't think a therapist will think you are faking it. Time to reach out and get help.

XenoBitch · 19/01/2023 23:18

Are you seeing a therapist at the moment? It might be better to go in blind as it were, and ask what they think rather than suggesting a particular diagnosis.
It is definitely worth looking at some sort of CBT anyway. Some IAPT run Emotional Regulation courses. There are also free DBT workbooks readily available online.
I have a BPD diagnosis, but I got it in my late 20s. Your brain and personality are still developing from teens to mid 20s anyway.
Also, BPD/EUPD is a horrible label to have. It follows you every where, and HCPs treat you with suspicion for non MH stuff like broken bones.
I think rather than seek a particular label, try and seek treatments for the symptoms that are causing you issues.
Good luck.

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