To think there are no helplines for family abuse

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Hello, sorry in advance for the muddled words as I’m quite nervous.

I am a carer for my mother who suffers from depression and anxiety, however for as long as I can remember she’s been abusing me.

its always been physical and mental abuse and I’ve always just sat back and taken it but recently I feel like I’m bursting at the seams.

I’ve recently started a new full time job which requires me to complete a qualification (dental nursing). I have been caring for her since i was 16 (im 22 nearly 23 now) and eventually she got more dependent on me which meant I was having to only work part time jobs and basically give up any form of social life. To make matters worse I’m suffering my acne and just feel extremely ugly and embarrassed..

the care I provide for her is basically doctor’s appointments, food shopping and so on….

To cut a long story short , I just don’t care anymore about looking after her given how she treats me. I don’t want to involve any authorities about this as I can’t see myself wanting to press charges but I wanted to know if there is any support for people who have gone through domestic violence with family members?

I don't know the answer I'm afraid but really hope there is.

I wanted to send you a huge hug and say congratulations on your new job. Getting your dental nurse qualification and living your own life FOR YOU - this is such an achievement given everything you are going through so I am hoping you can feel proud of yourself and be able to enjoy the company of your colleagues, getting to know them and learning about their lives.

Good luck!

You may find support and resources on the Stately Homes threads in Relationships.

Adult Social Services. That's if she actually needs care, rather than just behaving like she does to control you.

Sorry you're going through this.

Agree re: social services. They will be able to give you a carers assessment and hopefully provide support to you. Your mum doesn't have to know or be involved.

Secondly, I know of a girl that is emotionally abused and harassed by her parents.. she is being supported by our local domestic abuse service. So it's definitely worth enquiring with yours to see if you're eligible.