Lonliness

[Brayne56]

Hi everyone, I wanted to share with you how lonely I have felt this Christmas. I have longed for a phone call or a visitor and it hasn’t happened. I tried meeting friends a few times only for then to cancel on me. It leaves me feeling I have no value or self worth. Even when I have seen people I’ve felt distant and on the outside looking in. I took this photo today and thought how old I’m looking at 54. I just wish I had more good friends around me, I think it would make a huge difference to my mood and mental health. Anyhow here’s wishing you guys a happy new year. X

I think you look great for 54 when I seen the photo I was thinking maybe mid 40s.

@Brayne56

Happy new year to you! Please don’t feel you have no value or worth. That absolutely is not true. It’s hard over Christmas because people get so wrapped up in it all. I know I have neglected some of my friends and family this Christmas because I haven’t had a minute. It’s just starting to calm down and I’m starting to check in with people.

ps. You do not look old at all!

I would have guessed early 40’s

Thank you so kind to say x

You don't look 54 at all. I'm sorry you're feeling so lonely. Hopefully this year you can find a group to meet up with on the regular?

Make this year different. Force yourself to meet more people and get out and about. Join a club etc. and make it your mission for this time next year to be 100% different.

Sorry I really should have wished you happy new year x I think Xmas just makes people feel that they should have a full diary, it's just another day. Do you live alone? Do you have a family/children. I have friends that I could call at anytime but I also feel like the loneliest person in the world, it's easy to feel like this at anytime especially at Xmas when it's painted as a time of gatherings and celebrations with friends and family. This will pass when all this holiday malarkey is over and you get back to your normal day.

My son of 24yrs suffers with loneliness, he has autism and depression, unable to work, lives in his own flat . Really struggles with friends ...the ones he had , walked away when he became ill . Luckily he does have us as a family ...
You're not old, certainly don't look old . Christmas can be a very lonely and difficult time . We're in the New Year now , perhaps find some social groups to join if you can...I know its not easy

I may as well live alone because I’m alone so much of the time and when she is here she’s either snoring her head off on the sofa, at parents or in bed early. I feel invisible a lot of the time. Thank you for kind comments everyone.

Is your partner ill? Why does she sleep so much?

I felt like this too over the Christmas/New Year period. Desperate to be around people even though I was technically with people. Modern society can be very lonely. Everyone is encouraged to be independent and strong but it means we go against human nature which is to be social and have community support. Good friends and being surrounded by people who love you and care about you are more important than money imo, especially as you get older and can really impact both mental and physical health. I hope you are feeling a little less lonely now OP.