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Friend wants to kill self! Urgent text!

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Kirstenwe456 · 31/12/2022 21:28

My friend has been texting me that she wants to kill herself because she can’t live without her boyfriend who has said he wants space. I have told her that she will feel differently in a few weeks but she doesn’t see a way forward. I’m not sure if she is serious about suicide or just crying for help but I’m not taking that chance. I’m not used to these situations and don’t know what to do to stop her!

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Gooseysgirl · 31/12/2022 22:18

Ring this number for advice: Hopeline

Swissmountains · 31/12/2022 22:28

Don’t panic
but do get clear professional advice
This is bigger than whether or not she gets on with her parents etc. it’s imperative to contact the police or her sister to check on her. Don’t wait.
Remember you are doing this FOR her because you care about her.

Bpdqueen · 31/12/2022 22:30

Kirstenwe456 · 31/12/2022 21:56

I’m too worried to contact the police or get sister incase she feels like I’ve backstabbed her and it makes her worse!

I felt like this and my best friend died. Pls contact her sister or police immediately. People don't say things like this for the fun of it she's desperately asking for your help. You need to step up and help her or you will spend the rest of your life hating yourself. This isn't a game

PizzaPastaWine · 31/12/2022 22:32

Ring the sister first. If that's not successful then the police.

The minute someone starts threatening suicide all the concerns that you have are superseded by the need to get them immediate help.

Wrenegade · 31/12/2022 22:39

I’m sorry you’ve found yourself in this situation OP, it is a huge responsibility and worry to deal with. You may also need support in dealing with this, speak to family or friends to help you manage the situation and your feelings. Listen to your friend, ask her what plans she has made. The important thing is that she has reached out to you, she wants help.

Please encourage your friend to reach out to emergency services, Samaritans or Shout a text support service on 85258. You can also call emergency services 111 or 999, they will be able to locate your friend (if you can provide them with her phone number and location that would be really helpful).

Tell her you care, remind her that she matters and that feelings can change.

Butwhichoneistheman · 31/12/2022 22:41

There’s a 40% spike in suicides on 1 January each year so definitely a day to take this kind of thing seriously.

HangerLaneGyratorySystem · 31/12/2022 22:45

You can call Papyrus yourself they are open now, provided she is under 35 (that’s their cut off):

www.papyrus-uk.org/papyrus-hopelineuk/

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