I'm in need of help / advice.
My partner (32) is adamant that she is a bad mum to our 4yo girl (she has a self-confessed lack of self-worth and has opening used the phrase "I'm not good enough" in numerous context over the years stemming back to early teen hood etc.
Our daughter can be a challenge, and is certainly pushing boundaries at the moment, but I have to admit she does seem to react better in situations with/to me compared to my partner. The two of them bicker or snap away at each other - sometimes to the point that I feel in the middle (I know that sounds stupid!)
I have supporting my partner in all ways I can think of - listening, intervening, backing up instructions, trying new techniques... but I'm feeling a bit stuck. Ultimately she is fixed on the fact that our daughter behaves better with me, loves me more, and that she is a bad mum! I genuinely don't know what to do and feel helpless in the truest sense... all I can think of is maybe some kind of counselling type support for my partner, but I'm not too sure how me suggesting that would go down. I don't want to make a bad situation worse!
So... help! I love my partner and my daughter and want them to have a better relationship, but also want my partner to not feel so low so quickly in situations where she's pushed etc. I'm open to any and all suggestions... especially if you've been there / got out the back of something similar!