I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this but please direct me to the right place if not.
My brother has recently been diagnosed with ADHD (inattentive) after a 2 year wait, and the process of helping him and researching it has made light bulbs go off for me.
I have always struggled at being an adult, I'm so disorganised, I can't plan. The thought of hosting a dinner party brings me out in a cold sweat so I've never done it. I can't organise a children's party so haven't done one (major guilt on this front). I can watch a whole film and not notice anything that has happened in the plot, I can walk a mile walk and not have noticed anything along the way.
I cannot make decisions, decision making is so painful for me I can end up crying and giving up, which makes Christmas and birthdays unbearable. Over the years my lovely DH has taken over Christmas for me. I used to frequently end up in tears in shopping centres unable to make decisions, overwhelmed by the business and the noise, feeling a failure.
The thought of the Christmas period is so stressful, it's total overload for me, i long for a peaceful simple life, but I am easily BORED and when I'm bored I'm always discontented and unsettled and agitated.
the only way to combat this it to be outside and active. I love to be outside doing things/visiting places and thats what keeps me at peace, but this means I don't tackle the mundane boring house tasks which then build up. As a result my house is chaotic and disorganised.
I'm writing this to just see if anyone can sympathize or have any ideas about this.
I always thought I suffered from depression and anxiety and was just generally crap at life. I got diagnosed briefly in my late teens but recently I've started to think it's ADD. I would love to hear others experiences and have a discussion about it.