I’m a crap mum.

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Dd 17 had a school trip, I kind of knew about but forgot, asked dd to find out more but I don’t think she did. She missed it, she said it doesn’t matter but I feel so anxious and crap.
I had stuff going on, mum dying, depression, work so I’m trying to give myself a break but we never do anything exciting and I feel bad she missed it as she is having a crap time. and just generally shite, anxious and a failure as a parent. Please reassure me! How do I create something fun? We live in most boring place in the world.

You're not a crap mum
Can you go to nearest city for the lights? And a cocktail?

Thanks,for that. I sure feel crap. think a night away in a city would be good idea. I’m so bored and m not inspiring or interesting role model. Just trying to hold it together but always something slips. Guess that’s normal?!

Why should you feel awful that your 17yr old didnt remind/nag/ask again about the school trip??? Its not like she is 7- she is 17!

I'm sorry about your mum and MH

It doesn’t sound like she was that bothered. But I think you so need to communicate more - you need each other! Why don’t you chat and ask this question to her rather than randoms on the internet?

Sorry I didn’t mean that to sound horrible - it was a genuine question. Talk to her about what might be fun to do together and what she needs from you. I can bet she’ll know you’re going through a tough time and be wondering how she can be a support to you too…

Thanks. You’re right, she’s been getting more and more on her phone in her room out kindof teen. We prob need to hang out more.