How to quickly bounce back when social media upsets you

[JamSandle]

If you've ever seen something on social media that's upset you, what helps you to quickly bounce back or recover?

I have a REALLY simple solution. It's fool proof. I have never been upset by SM so I know it works.

Delete it ! It really is liberating . Gives you your life back .. since doing it I am more engaged with my family. We do loads of stuff together. I have a couple of hobbies I would never have had 'time' for as attached to the bloody phone.. I was literally a phone slave.

SM is utter nonsense. Engage with real people in the real world.

Try it... then come back in 3 months and tell me your life is worse ??

Backing off from sm. honestly it's the best way. I ditched fb for 7 years once

Delete and block. Better still deactivate all your social media accounts.

I don't have much in the way of social media, but in what way does it upset you? What kind of posts are making you feel bad?

Yes, OP. What kind of posts are upsetting for you? You can set filters to stop certain things appearing on your feed.

It depends what it is. I learned what kind of posts trigger bad feelings for me and focussed on the things I do like about it and from there I just unfollowed certain people and focussed on groups that have a community spirit and stayed in those. I'm terrible for comparing my own life to others so found that unfollowing friends accounts helped. I still look at them from time to time but when I'm in the right mood mentally.

Ideally I'd come off Facebook altogether but being fairly isolated in real life it fulfils a feeling of connection (at this current time anyway).

It sounds a bit silly but absent minority throughout the day I will take a look and sometimes see something that makes me feel envy. Sometimes I understand why and sometimes I dont.

Usually this is provoked by friends who have moved abroad (I lived overseas for a while and am indecisive about doing so again), or people who seem to have made big life choices (as I struggle with indecision.)

I've actually wondered if I have ADHD and/or autism because of what a strong reaction I can sometimes have.

My life is lovely but it's like I've a restless mind and if I suddenly look at the wrong time social media can really feed into it.

I would say it stirs up restlessness, doubt and confusion in me. Like I'm seeing too much of others lifes and losing sight of me?

I do tend to hide most contacts so I can look at there pages if I want but not be caught by surprise.

Other things that trigger this are music, some films, I feel like I have to be so selective or I spiral.

If it's envy you're feeling what about making small steps towards a plan?

Start a document and cost up a trip, then start a savings jar.

Look into options for where you would move to and jobs etc.

If you're struggling with indecision in general, maybe look into therapy? Perhaps private with ADHD/Autism assessment too if that's what you're worried about?

Thanks Bertie. I had therapy recently and finished. I also feel a bit resistant to it at the moment? I do journal a lot and that can help me make sense of things.

I really struggle with knowing what I want or making decisions. It wouldn't seem this way to people who know me...on paper I've made lots of decisions but inside I agonise over them.

@JamSandle A lot of things which you see on social media is not true.
Prioritise your life and live your life according to that.