Crippling anxiety and panic attacks over every little thing that preschool teachers say!

[mum2boys1504]

So I have anxiety specifically related to my youngest child preschool I am constantly over thinking every comment and every thing they say, feeling that they are judging me or that they are concerned got my child (which they haven't really expressed and there's no reason for them to be ) I get really anxious when they tell me he hasn't had good behaviour I.e hitting/kicking being aggressive .. he's only 3.5 years old. And it not every time but the last few weeks they've had to tell me about his behaviour, and when they do my anxiety kicks in telling me they think that he's in a bad environment or he's got issues (which he hasnt) I'm making a big deal over every little thing they say. He does get quite frustrated and angry when he's unwell /hungry etc and I've explained thoa to them but I'm constantly worried about everytime they bring him 2 me my kind races and panics that he's not had good behaviour and that they think things that are probably not true. I just iverexolain everything and come across really anxious , which in turn makes me worry they think I'm a concern and i Churn over every comment they make . Most dYs they just say he's been OK or he's had a good day but when they day he's hit another child etc I get severely anxious thinking they are concerned. It's like I'm going mad. Like if he had a tiny bruise I worry what they think even though I shouldn't.. what can I do. Don't know what answers I'm looking for but I'm fed up or constantly worrying what they think. They tell me they just have 2 let me know , but I never knkw what 2 say and come across nervous!

Sorry for spelling mistakes and thank u to anyone that reads these

First it might help to remember that lots of other parents will be getting this feedback. It’s so common for kids to hit out at other kids that pre-school staff will already know that all kids from all circumstances do this kind of thing from time to time.

As for the intrusive thoughts, you might want to consider cbt. It can be accessed through an online portal which really cuts down the waiting times. Would be worth mentioning to your gp and giving it a go.

Hi lovely, you sound like a very concerned Mum. Give yourself a break a little. When the nursery talk to you about him I think it's understandable that your worries emerge like this, so try and be kind to yourself. Also try and make sure you stop and really listen when they tell you he has had a good day, that is so important. He is still young, he is learning about behaviour, lots of kids kick and hit, I work in a school so I see it a lot and it is not a big deal. He will work through it. Try and find ways to help yourself de-escalate if you can or you made need to chat further with your GP about this.

Thank you so much . I know I need to relax. As a mum I'm really confident but when they say he's been angry or not had kind hands I felt like they were looking for an answer and I explain that i tell him all the time 2 be kind and to express his needs. He is only little and I try to be calm I guess I just get really anxious when they tell me as I'm not sure what they want me 2 say. My anxiety just goes crazy and tells me they think he is not in a good environment which he is. My oldest child has SEND and can have meltdowns and I've explained it could be a little bit of copying/also his age and also he need sheep expressing his needs. I'm hoping they don't really think these things about me and that it's just in my head. I think sometimes the way they word things like "has anything happens and the weekend that's make him be angry today " I feel like they're accusing me of something! So I get all anxious which makes me feel like I'm coming across guilty even though I have no reason to! Just need to holidays 2 reset and thank u 4 your time