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Whats wrong with me?

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froghead · 13/12/2022 11:54

Hi, was wondering if anyone could advise what to do as have just been turned down treatment for mental health. They won't put me on a course of cbt because in the assessment I told them about problems I have in my neighbourhood and they said that could undermine therapy. She was initially going to get a safeguarding check done but I don't meet the critera so am left with nothing.

I asked about counselling but she said that was very limited and for people with depression (so not me?). I said I think I may have ptsd and she asked if I get flashbacks which I don't so she has disregarded me for any treatment for the trauma (which I think is really adding to my problems).

I am really struggling, emotionally overwhelmed and feel like things are getting worse and I am getting more and more out of control. I keep having these breakdowns? not sure what to call it but am going through periods of days at a time where I completely lose the plot and and sense of reason. I walk about crying unable to stop myself - try to get out so the kids don't hear/see me in that state and walk about the woods literally howling. When I wake up out of the funk it is so embarrassing remembering the things I have done in those times. Have cried in the shop and in public quite regulary for months.

I have an impulse to hurt myself and ended up beating up my own head the other day. I still have some control - that time was really wanting to rip all my hair out and I knew I would regret it but am frightened i am loosing my handle on myself. Which is why I went to the doctors. If this is not depression then what is it? I was like this when a teen and used to bash my head against a wall and cut my wrists and finding myself feeling like this again. Its like emotions are too big to be physically bearable.

A few things have happened recently that have caused me to really fixate and obsess over past relationship abuse. Which is why I was hoping for some sort of help processing my past. Apart from flashbacks every thing else I have read about ptsd really fits. I think? I feel like a pathetic whiny idiot if the psychologist heard all the stuff I told her and I am unworthy of any treatment or help.

Does anyone recognise this kind of overwhelming feeling? I was wondering if some sort of medication would help if I can't access any support or therapy. Trying to hide it from my kids but not sure how well I am doing at that so any suggestions would be really appreciated.

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Eyesopenwideawake · 13/12/2022 13:12

"Which is why I was hoping for some sort of help processing my past."

Happy to send you a list of Control System practitioners, all of whom can help you process your past; most offer a free initial consultation.

froghead · 13/12/2022 13:35

Thanks @Eyesopenwideawake. I should have said, have no funds for anything. I have not heard of this, is it something I could find on youtube and try to work out myself?

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Bewitched005 · 13/12/2022 13:38

What is your diet like?

froghead · 13/12/2022 13:42

Pretty good - kids have specific needs (multiple allergies/veggie) so have no choice!

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froghead · 13/12/2022 13:45

I have been eating wheat recently though and I know I shouldn't as intolerant but catering for 3 different diets is exhausting.

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Eyesopenwideawake · 13/12/2022 15:52

froghead · 13/12/2022 13:35

Thanks @Eyesopenwideawake. I should have said, have no funds for anything. I have not heard of this, is it something I could find on youtube and try to work out myself?

Have a look at Tim Box's Youtube channel - probably best to start with the Ted X talk - there's masses of free information about anxiety, trauma, panic, sleep issues.

https://www.youtube.com/c/TimBoxMindCoach

Don't forget you can always talk to the Samaritans 24/7.

froghead · 13/12/2022 16:00

Thank you @Eyesopenwideawake this is really helpful.

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