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Final straw

5 replies

whatisforteamum · 06/12/2022 17:12

I cannot stand this much more.
Dh was overweight for yrs despite losing his dm to heart attack v young.He takes no responsibility for himself.
He had a heart attack too,a major one,carried on being unhealthy.
Lost his job and relied on me heavily to help him find one.
He only deals with issues when they actually arise and has no foresight.
Dreadful checking cough for months eventually resolved after many tests and nagging by me.
Shaves or washes when reminded to.
Now he has no transport to work after I repeatedly advised him to look for a newer car which he didn't now it is costing him dearly.
I feel like he is so unmotivated to do anything it is a burden to me.
I recently changed jobs as I was slogging 13 hr days however I didn't have to deal with him.
G p suggested counselling or Ads which he wasn't keen on.
I'm trying hard not to get sucked into his negative way of thinking as I've just dragged myself away from depression.
Am I wrong to leave him to it.?

OP posts:
Eyesopenwideawake · 06/12/2022 21:20

You're not wrong to leave him. Period. Can you do that, practically and financially?

peppapig79 · 06/12/2022 21:33

No your not wrong. I've just parted with someone with MH issues because it was just too much for me to cope with and having my own issues.

peppapig79 · 06/12/2022 21:33

Sometime you can only help people so much, they need to help themselves.

whatisforteamum · 07/12/2022 06:36

No I've had panic attacks myself.
Stopped drinking taking vitamins.
Other half won't help himself and it drags me down.
I do weights now and go to bed early take my hrt and had therapy.
I don't want to get dragged back by him tbh
Sounds mean I know.

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dolor · 07/12/2022 06:50

You are clearly deeply unhappy, don't waste a moment longer before you leave.

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