House a constant tip and feeling low

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Anyone else? I’ve suffered with low mood and depression on a d off for years. But I cannot keep the house nice. It’s always a mess, always stuff everywhere, I never keep on top of kitchen, laundry, dusting, floors, mess. 8 years now. I’ve been decluttering, had work done, replastered etc but everything a mess
and now Christmas. How do I even start? Can’t be bothered to get all that out when the house is a mess.
have 2 lovely dd though so I have to. They’re away with grandparents so I can sort but feeling so low and just can’t

hand hold please and tell me it will be ok and get better. Feel like I might explode

One room at a time.
you have my sympathy. I know how hard it is.
I despair at the state of our place sometimes. It gets to the point when you just think ‘what’s the point?’ Because it is just an endless round of moving stuff about but it not getting any better.

I took a screen shot of this the other evening in the hope it would motivate me to do something, anything!

Yesterday I filled a charity bag full of clothes. Today I am going to tackle the ironing pile.

Maybe just look about the room you are in, grab a binbag and fill a bag for the charity shop? Do the same tomorrow with clothes your DD have outgrown/no longer wear. A little bit at a time -unless you have the funds to hire someone to do a professional declutter and clean? Not affordable to most of us I imagine.

It has to get better, have hope

I totally get you op. I’m struggling myself hugely. I’m sitting here now looking at all the clutter. So much to do. Definitely low level depression. I’ve had a close bereavement too. My children need me. I desperately want things to be good for them. My body feels exhausted. Sorry- that’s all about me! But you’re not alone. I’m going to do my best which is all I can do. Trying to focus on my bedroom today. A recent tweet from someone I follow said - allow yourself to be crap today. It’s fine. I’m trying to keep that in mind.

Thanks both,
I have been busy today and have filled two bin bags for the charity shop. I must take them next week though or they’ll end up sitting in my car boot 😞

hope you’re both doing ok. Look after yourselves x

Yep I feel ya. But what I've realised Is that people bring stuff into my home a lot. I just made progress in the kitchen and two days ago my MIL came to stay bringing huge toy advent calendars for our 3 yr old and 1yr old. On top of the one we have him and then she gave us a chocolate one each so we have 5 fucking HUGE advent calendars in the kitchen. 3yr old hasn't fully grasped the calendar concept and it was tantrums about only opening one door so I've just let him open the toy ones and so I have farm animals all over the place
Then she gave us all Xmas eve boxes and I rifled through to sift out the SHIT because I just can't bear half the stuff she gives us. Honestly it's all tat and I'm going to try and siphon it off to the charity shop but again, it's just giving me work to do getting rid of shit we don't need and wasting her money on it.
My parents are bad for it too, always something in their hands to leave behind with us.
The penny dropped a few weeks ago that this is what's happening and I'm now just trying to say NO we don't need x y z.
Clothes - we always have ten tonnes of washing. I know why. We above too many clothes. So I'm going through all that too. Managed to get rid of three bags already.
Toys - the kids have wayyyy too many so I'm putting half into big plastic boxes I've bought and will go into the garage for 6 weeks. If they ask for a toy from the box I'll go get it but anything else not asked for then that's going to charity.

And I'm feeling low too. I bawled my eyes out walking up the high street and then all the way home.
Putting too much pressure on trying to be a perfect parent doing perfect Xmas things but actually all my children need is a happy mum.
We made angels for the Xmas tree and my son was so happy doing that. So I'm determined to make a big lot of progress this week coming whilst DH is at work and ds1 is at nursery.