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18 yr old keeps going missing

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yummumto3girls · 01/12/2022 01:04

Help! I am at the end of my tether and don’t know what to do. DD2 has struggled with her mental health for a couple of years now, it’s getting worse. She disappears for days on end, I don’t know where she is. She is at various friends houses but I can never be sure. She is barely eating, previous eating disorder, and not looking after herself. She has some great friends who seem to come to her rescue when needed. When she is home she terrorises our family, DD1 is currently having to share a room with her due to building work, DD2 refuses to share and it causes huge arguments, I feel so sorry for DD1 who she treats terribly. Twice this week DD2 has demanded that DD1 gets out of her room, thrown a plant across the room and stormed out of the house at gone midnight. Tonight is the second time she has done this and I have ended up driving around looking for her. She finally
messaged to say she was at a friends house. Her behaviour is making me ill. I believe she has ADHD/some other undiagnosed MH but I just can’t get the GP to engage. I ring them for help and then they don’t call her! When she finally does call them herself, which is a big deal, they say she needs to call at 830 for an appointment. What 18 yr old with severe depression/anxiety is going to get up at that time to call, she stays up all night and sleeps all day! I am so worried about her and how she is wasting her life doing nothing (supposed to be on a gap year and travelling but can’t hold down a job). What do I do? How can I get help for her and our family?

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determinedtomakethiswork · 01/12/2022 01:10

That sounds incredibly distressing for you. Do you know her friends? Would they send you a message to tell you that she's with them?

Someone with more experience will be along soon, but in the meantime, I hope you get some rest tonight 💐

yummumto3girls · 01/12/2022 01:14

Thank you! DD1 ended up sending a Snapchat to a friend who said she was there but DD1 is not always here and I don’t have their numbers because she refuses to give them to me! I just need the GP to help but because of her age they won’t deal with me.

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determinedtomakethiswork · 01/12/2022 01:18

That's incredibly frustrating about the doctors. My daughter had depression at one point when she was at university and the doctor refused to speak to me. It was really annoying as I could point things out that I knew she wouldn't do herself. I think it took her a lot longer to get better as a result of that.

One thing you can do is send a letter to the doctor. They won't even acknowledge it but they will read it.

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