Dealing with troubled behaviour

[Lauraparent]

I took my partner and 2 of his sons in very early into our relationship. Their mother suffers from drug and mental health problems. I was childless at the time. Since then we have had a child
together. I’ve been raising 3 boys since then pretty much on my own. The eldest (not mine) has been showing signs of autism. He has been very aggressive and accusatory of me. Threatening to tell the authorities on me and my partner (I’m not concerned about this as we have nothing to hide etc) but making it clear he doesn’t want to be with us. I feel so exhausted right now I can’t even compete this write up.. I feel so sad about our lives

Where is the mother, and considering her drug and mental health problems was she already supported by social services or similar? If so , how were you able to take up such a role in their life so quickly, and why would you be doing this alone and not with your partner heavily involved?
How old is the child and have school picked up on any signs of neurodiversity?

What is your partner doing here? While it is admirable that you want to support the whole family your priority must be your own child.

your partner should play a larger role than you (by some way!) in raising his 2 children . If he doesn’t, or they pose any threat to your child whatsoever then you should split.

perhaps the older children are finding it more difficult than expected to fit into a new family without their mum. Perhaps their needs are more than you can deal with alone.

what does your partner think of leaving with his older children? Could you seek some outside help and decide if this might actually be best all round?