I wasn't sure whether to put this in Relationships or Mental Health. Bit of both. Ongoing saga, I've posted about it before and had plenty of comments, good and bad. Walk away. You're over-invested. Get a life. Keep your nose out.
Friend said she wanted to open up and tell me something at the weekend. She's been "talking to" (never met, never Facetimed/Zoomed only shared photos that could be of anyone and spoken on the phone) a former catalogue model in Florida since the summer. I had heard of this before and they asked her to talk with them on Telegram, not normal texts or WhatsApp etc.
He is in love with her, has lost his wife to breast cancer, he now wants to settle down with someone and live a quiet life, and she is the one.
Knowing her track record I asked if she was sure he was real, and she said yes, here's his voice message to prove it (it sounded like someone with an African accent pretending to be American) and also he hasn't asked for any money (yet.) Also he doesn't want her "talking to" other guys, he wants her all to himself, which proves he's genuine, doesn't it?
When she told them she needed time to think about moving to sunny Florida from cold and wet North Yorkshire, they said that they weren't prepared to be messed about. Cue lots of crying and her sending impassioned messages how sorry she was, give me another chance, you're breaking my heart and making my depression worse, please talk to me.
What would you do:
Be there when it all hits the fan.
Hope it does all hit the fan to give her a wake up call (and support her when it does)
Give straight talking (though she'd get cross if I was to do that)
Nothing.
Friend has been in therapy for a year or more now (IAPT) and still unable to make good choices.