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No libido due to ADs

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levan · 28/01/2008 20:01

Have been plucking up the courage to post this for weeks... I am so fed up with having no sex drive due to ADs. I have been on them on and off for many years and have reluctantly concluded that I need to stay on them for the foreseeable future. A change of AD isn't really an option as I have tried many different kinds and these seem to suit me best in terms of other side effects (and anyway they all affect your sex life in some way or other IME). I love DP and would fancy him if I fancied anyone, but I have absolutely no interest in having sex with him. It wouldn't be so bad if it wasn't that I can remember having a very healthy sex drive before ADs (and in the brief periods when I've been off them) and I hate the thought of never having that again. It's crap for DP too and to be honest I woudn't blame him if he looked elsewhere although I would be devastated. Is there any answer to this? Any advice greatly appreciated.

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Twigy · 28/01/2008 21:47

Oh im sorry levan i've been the opposite i've been jumping off the wardrope which my hubby thinks is great!!

Look at this page we are all talking about citrolpram ad but some of the girls maybe able to help you.

levan · 30/01/2008 19:19

Thanks Twigy - have been onto thread and unfortuantely no-one able to help so far so am bumping this in case anyone else has any ideas....

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Twigy · 30/01/2008 19:34

No probs Levan

If any of the girls suggest anything I will let you know.

I know its a bit personal to ask but have you tried anything to put the spark back in.

Could you try a bit of a sexy massage or buy yourself some new undies to perk yourself up?

foosfan · 31/01/2008 04:59

Levan, I know how you feel!
I am on 40mg of Fluoxetine (too loco for 20 to work!!) and would not care if Brad Pitt walked naked through my bedroom.
I would probably want to kill him for waking me up these days
Its getting to me too.
What AD's are you taking?

levan · 31/01/2008 12:49

Twigy - have tried this sort of thing - no joy. Foosfan - I'm on dothiepin. Good to know others have the same problem I suppose! I feel a bit guilty complaining about it as I suppose as side effects go it's pretty unimportant - it's just that there is no prospect of me coming off the ADs and I can't bear the thought of never having a decent sex life again

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foosfan · 31/01/2008 18:57

I don't think its unimportant at all!
I had a healthy marriage, now we sleep in separate rooms and have done since DD was born!
I'm going to do some tinternet browsing and see if I can discover a "cure"
I don't even fantasize about Keifer Sutherland any more for gods sake...this is serious!

Twigy · 31/01/2008 22:19

Gosh

Am i the only one to turn into a porn star!!!

I have been the opposite, maybe its because i have had a coil fitted, come off the pill and know for SURE that I cant get preggers.

Dont you think that once you do the dirty deed (after a few glasses of red vino) that you actually look forward to it??

monkeytrousers · 31/01/2008 22:26

How much are you on? Could you reduce the dose?

levan · 01/02/2008 13:02

I'm on 100 mg and don't really want to go any lower as I feel this just holds me - any less and I might start to wobble. Foosfan - any luck with your internet research?

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monkeytrousers · 01/02/2008 19:31

Isn't that a lot?

Vacua · 01/02/2008 19:37

reboxetine is an anti-depressant that is supposed to have nice side effects for women - increased orgasm intensity

foosfan · 02/02/2008 15:14

Nope not really, apart from taking Zinc supplements which I allready tried!!
That Reboxetine sounds interesting though...but would be a bit cringey to have to explain to the doc why I would want to change

levan · 03/02/2008 17:16

No, I don't think it's a lot - I was on 225mg before! Might investigate the reboxetine - thanks. Am already on the zinc!

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