People saying “it gets better”

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Does anyone else struggle with this narrative? When people say things like this it makes me feel worse and I find it incredibly unsympathetic but it seems like it’s everyones go to.

It doesn’t always get better. I’ve had people saying it for two decades. Two decades of depression, more than half my life, now with chronic illness thrown in the mix. A failing body, a failing mind. Too ill to work, not ill enough to get any help, can’t afford to live. When’s it getting better?!

My DH is on antidepressants for life, so his MH is better.
What have you tried that has/hasn’t worked ?

I think when people say that they are just trying to give you hope. There's not much you can do with a life with no hope.

Sometimes things get better in the sense you learn to adjust to the circumstances you find yourself in and you can find a little chink of satisfaction somewhere in the life you have, enough of a crack in the wall of misery to help you cling on by your fingertips.

I think more people are learning to avoid platitudes like "it gets better" in favour of "that sounds very hard". My mum's preferred platitude was "If you don't mind, I'll think of you in my prayers". Which i rather liked. My mum's comfort through hard times came from a deep abiding faith, for which I envy her. She could go to a spiritual place I can't reach.

Anyway clearly you've had a tough time OP and still battling tough times. Hope you can find a chink of light in all the dark.