Naming Anxiety

[Sundaisy]

Hi Everyone

I delivered my second baby girl this year in May. The whole family got engaged in finding names for the baby. Eveyone appreciated when I named my elder daughter so the expectation of finding a unique and sweet name was set from the day 1 of her birth. We were about to finalize a name many a times but everytime I had a panic attack sort of thing. Its been 5 months and I am unable to name my daughter. I like a few name with the letter V but as our elder daughter has her name from a different alphabet, we don't want to make use V for the younger one. DH and my name also begin with V. Thid is the dilemma I am facing. I feel I dont like any other names and have this crippling feeling of not being able to name DD. Thoughts of names now give me anxiety because the ones I like have some limitations.I don't like any other name. I am unable to sleep and stay anxious all day long. Early mornings are the worst. I am unsure of taking anti anxiety medicines as I breastfeed DD. I feel as if my life has stopped.

What do you call your daughter when you speak to her?

We have given her a nickname and we call her by that name.

Don’t discuss it with anyone except your partner. Choose a name, register it and that’s it done. Poor baby not having a name for all this time.

Are you not in the UK? As I thought you needed to register the name by now.

If not, you need to try and think that whatever name you give doesn't have to be perfect just suit your child. Though often babies grow into names.

List a few and see if we can help.

You need to make a decision. Today. Your daughter needs a name and this is causing you no end of unnecessary upset for something that WILL HAPPEN. I would suggest you & your DH write 3 names each you like. You can then remove one from each other's list leaving 4 names. Pick one. Put the names in a hat, agree, argue - it doesn't matter but you need to do this NOW. Get this issue out of the way and make an appointment with your GP as you sound like you could do with some support.

(to save all the hassle, could the nickname not be her actual name?)

How did you register her without a name?