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Pregnant and depressed

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Skyispink · 25/10/2022 13:45

Hello all looking for some advice really

I’m nearly 10 weeks pregnant with a surprise but very wanted baby. I’m very anxious due to previous miscarriage however I do have a living son who’s 2.

i think I had postnatal depression with my son but buried it to look like I had everything together ok the outside. Slowly I think it’s got worse but since being pregnant I feel terrible. I’ve completely lost my connection with my son and partner, I have no motivation (the house is such a mess-normally very tidy and clean, don’t take my son anywhere, we just watch films or go to my mums)

my partner is very supportive but has voiced his concern, basically all I want to do is sleep and lay on the sofa. I know this could be due to pregnancy symptoms too but I just feel so sad. I hate what I’ve become!!!

i work 2-3 days a week, I hate my job and would love a new one with more hours however, childcare in my area is few and far between (on waiting lists currently for over a year) plus very expensive so I don’t have loads of options however I feel a new job would help my mental state.

i have always said I’d never go on any form of anti depressants, I feel like they mask the problem without actually dealing with it, along with the risks they pose to pregnancy. However I feel like I need to do something… should I contact the midwife? Gp? I just don’t know how anyone can help me!

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Princessintherosecastle · 16/11/2022 16:56

Hi,

just wondering did you get any help? I’m in the same boat- I’m pregnant but have lost the will to do anything, I feel like I’m just going through the motions?
I was going to speak to my midwife but was worried she would just refer me to mental health?

anyone any ideas?

Many thanks 🙏🏻

Skyispink · 18/11/2022 07:43

@Princessintherosecastle hey sorry you’re feeling like that! How many weeks are you?

now that I’m in my second trimester my mood has lifted- I was so desperate to feel better and tried everything I could at home to feel better but really the only thing that changed was getting to the second trimester.

i still don’t feel 100% but personally I will mention it to my midwife if I am worried again, I’m my area they have specific mental health midwives who you can see alongside you’re normal midwife- I wouldn’t worry too much about being referred as hopefully you’ll get some help!! Hope you start feeling better soon xx

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