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To approach Ex about my own mental health

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icedcoffeenow · 24/10/2022 19:31

For a few different reasons I have been struggling with low mood for the last few months (this isn't a new thing and has flared up a few times over the years), which I can usually manage well enough. I think most people are in a similar boat, struggling to stay afloat financially, feeling lonely (I'm a single Mum), etc. After my ex and I split over 18 months ago (we were together around 12 years and had two children together) I got in to a short term relationship around 6 months later and during that time my ex got a new partner. We parted on amicable terms and I don't wish him any harm even if we don't see eye to eye on things, we are both pretty laid back people and can get on. However, I have zero interest in his personal life, we aren't friends on social media and besides knowing that he's well I don't really care for anymore information. However, he feels the need to tell me what's going on in his personal life - notably the getaways he's now enjoying with his new girlfriend. Now, I think everyone deserves to be happy but whenever he tells me about their plans I can't help but get upset. The main reason we grew apart and the relationship failed was because he didn't want to do anything with me. No meals out, weekends away, cinema trips etc. We spent time together as a family but whenever I suggested anything the two of us, he wasn't interested. I get it, we weren't meant to be together... that's fine. But why does it affect me so much. I've been on the verge of tears all day (since his latest love life update 🙄). I did respond and say that I didn't need to know about plans that don't involve the kids but I don't know whether I should tell him that I don't want to know because I find it so hurtful. I'm just annoyed that I've been feeling pretty good the last few days and then an email out of the blue puts me back to feeling like utter crap again.

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