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I think I want my DH to go back on medication

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SoupySoup · 19/10/2022 06:16

My DH and I have been married for 10 years. He has struggled with stress and anxiety on and off since we were married. He's had time off work for stress and ended up leaving jobs because he couldn't cope. The last time this happened he quit his job entirely, spent all of our savings on retraining to work in a different industry. He has since landed his dream job but, he is starting to have problems again. He is seeing a therapist which is helping.
My problem is, he was on medication for depression for two years and life was, during that time, brilliant. We didn't argue and he had no issues. He thinks that was because he was studying at the time rather than working. But I'm fairly sure it was the medication (as there were plenty of things to worry about such as a new baby, lack of financial stability, the pandemic and house move).
Anyway, he came off the medication this summer and it's like we're back to square 1. I've suggested about going back on the medication but he says he doesn't want to spend his life medicated.
I get it, it's his body. But it's also our relationship and our life that is impacted.
I guess I'm after thoughts from people with similar experiences. I just want him to be happy and for his job to be stable. (For information - I work but don't earn as much as him).

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KangarooKenny · 19/10/2022 06:53

When my DH went on antidepressants he was told to be on them for life, no coming off them.
If your DH refuses to do what is best for his family, then you should free yourself from his selfishness, and a life you don’t want to live.

XDownwiththissortofthingX · 19/10/2022 08:05

Has he expressed any specific reasons why he doesn't want to medicate beyond an innate aversion to the actual idea itself?

It's possible that he was experiencing effects of the medication that he hasn't told you about, but even then that's not a reason to give up on the idea completely as there are umpteen different types of anti-depressant meds that can be tried in order to find one that works well without creating added issues.

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