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Feeling of dread the morning after 🍾

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PivotPivotPivot123 · 16/10/2022 16:59

I feel so fed up today. Drank too much wine this weekend, two days in a row and I HATE doing that, I don't do it often. I usually just stick to a Saturday night, sometimes with a friend. Sometimes if I don't feel like company I'll sit by myself with a bottle in front of the telly watching a chick flick or something. I feel really down today, so anxious. Even though I wasn't blind drunk falling over or anything. I just keep overthinking everything. I grabbed my phone the second I woke up (not even hungover really) thinking oh shit what if I've watsapped someone and said something awful! What if I've phoned someone? I start worrying in case I've looked up an ex on Facebook and accidentally liked something or whatever. What if everyone finds out and thinks I'm some massive, psychopathic stalker? I'll try and do something productive (usually a long walk in the fresh air or googling something educational) but deep down I'm just pondering over painful memories and things that have really hurt me and feeling shit all over again, then worrying all day about the future. Does everyone hate me? What if I'm alone forever? What if I'm shit at my new job and get the sack? What if I lose my house? What if I get really bad health issues in the future? What about everyone I love? Honestly it just snowballs. I'm (clearly) a worrier anyway and I'm hoping to get some therapy next year but drinking just makes me feel so bad afterwards. I know the obvious answer is to go tee total, even though I admit I do love my weekend fizz, but I'm just wondering (the reason for my post) have any of you ruled out alcohol altogether - even temporarily - and noticed a positive difference to your mental health? Has it really had much of an impact for you? Please don't come down too hard on me if you can help it, I feel pretty needy today and believe it or not I'm usually not needy. I'm going to stick a comedy on x

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FrontRowSeat · 16/10/2022 17:05

you have The Fear …. It’s a real thing and very very common after drinking. I always get it and it’s awful. Google it. Also, have a listen to a podcast by Sober Awkward - the episode called Hangxiety - explains it really well. Have a few pints of water and an early night. You’ll feel a bit better tomorrow. Try not to be too hard on yourself.

PivotPivotPivot123 · 16/10/2022 17:26

Thank you x

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limitededitionbarbie · 16/10/2022 17:30

Stick a comedy on or look at the classics threads on here. Plenty to cheer you up.

I get like this if I drink gin. It makes me sad and full of anxiety every time I drink it. I never drink it now.

Tomorrow is a new day you will feel much better tomorrow xxxxx

Academeo · 16/10/2022 17:44

Yes, I have. I am quite similar to you (based on your description). Life long anxiety. I’d really catastrophise too. Alcohol played a huge part in my low moods, I now realise. For the record, I’d not go a day without drinking, but usually just a couple of glasses. A lot more on weekends, if out etc.

Not drinking has been brilliant. I feel so much better! At ease. The sun shines more, in my head, no dark clouds. I completely recommend it.

Haven’t drunk since the summer. Went out and had a glass of wine yesterday, to be sociable etc, and it was a nice pub, ONE (!) glass of white, with food. Seemed like a good idea, like I could handle it. But now I realise that even that amount makes me feel anxious, and it’s addictive for me, as you say — you like your fizz, or think you do. It’s actually the drunk feeling we like.

Plus, one drink leads to another, so now I’m thinking ah why met another glass today, what’s the harm, I’m on holiday, almost forgetting how fucking shit it makes me feel.

I was (of course!) quite anxious about giving up since alcohol can be so wrapped up with social occasions etc, and I dreaded not “fitting in”, being sociable with my husband over dinner, etc, ridiculous I know (but you probably know what I mean re the over thinking!), anyway I found “the alcohol experiment” book to be brilliant. It really helped me give up (mostly!), and see alcohol for what it is.

RhubarbAndMustard · 16/10/2022 18:13

I was exactly the same as you. So anxious about everything, waking up 3am with worries and fears circling through my mind, feeling completely over whelmed at work and just really not coping with what life was throwing at me.

I stopped drinking 5 weeks ago. I drink non alcohol beer and gin whenever I feel like a proper 'drink' and to me they taste the same. But my anxiety has completely diminished. I sleep like a baby and have so much energy and enthusiasm to do activities in the day, rather than just mooch.

I am not saying I'll never drink. I have a wine tasting coming up in December and that's pretty hard to do without drinking. But for me, stopping the daily 'few' has made so much difference to my mental health that I really don't want to go back to how I was and I realise the drink just isn't worth it. I've done a hen party in that time and still danced and sang the night away so I clearly don't need it for social events.

coolpineapple1 · 16/10/2022 18:37

I stopped drinking 45 days ago and my anxiety has improved greatly. On reflection alcohol has made me depressed too. I'm hoping to never drink again but it is tough. Be kind to yourself x

Kakinkankakoo · 16/10/2022 18:41

I quit drinking 4 years ago. One of the best things I have ever done. Talk about freedom!

JustJustWhy · 16/10/2022 19:04

I gave up drinking 4 years ago with a couple of blips along the way where I thought I could moderate my drinking (I can't and I haven't drunk in ages now). The tiniest bit of alcohol gives me terrible anxiety. I HAVE to go for a long walk - and keep walking and walking. Nothing else helps.

Seebee · 20/10/2022 07:17

How are you doing OP?

Olsi109 · 20/10/2022 07:20

The reason I don't drink. I may have 1 glass of wine if I go for a celebratory meal but other than that nope. Mocktails all the way!

Idratherbepaddleboarding · 20/10/2022 08:06

Wine/ Prosecco always makes me feel awful the next day so I only drink disarrano (so?) or amaretto and Diet Coke. It’s also half the strength of day vodka so I can keep up with others without consuming the same amount of alcohol. Plus it tastes sooo good!

simon1825 · 22/10/2022 19:38

Yes. I've not had alcohol for 3 years and it's had a massively positive impact on my mental health. I don't suffer directly from the effects of it anymore and I no longer have to worry about what I've done whilst under the influence or how much money I'm spending on it.
It's not a silver bullet that's solved every problem in my life but it's a huge obstacle that's been removed which has helped.

wildthingsinthenight · 22/10/2022 19:46

I think wine is particularly bad for this. My head is totally messed up the next day so much so that I have stopped drinking it.
I drink much less these days as I now have long covid and resulting chronic pain and my body can't tolerate it.
But occasionally I do and I now drink vodka and tonic which is much kinder next day.
Hope you are ok OP xx

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