Feeling exhausted and overwhelmed

[Isthistherealthing]

I’ve felt like this before and the tiredness always improves but lately I’ve been waking up from 8 hours sleep feeling totally exhausted.
I have so much to juggle - 2 DC, running a business and all the crap life admin and responsibilities that don’t get done unless I do them.
I have zero time to myself and as an introvert I find even my children’s company too much sometimes.

Just feels like I’m on a never ending treadmill and life is passing me by whilst I work through endless to do lists before crawling in to bed, getting up and doing it all over again.

DH does very little in comparison and his answer to everything is “don’t do it then” or “it doesn’t need doing”. I can’t live like that though - I want my children to have clean clothes, birthday presents to open, friends round for tea etc. I also can’t seem to function when every surface is covered in food debris, clutter etc and I seem to be fighting a losing battle against it daily!

Currently I just want to pack a bag, check in to a hotel and never come back. I feel totally ridiculous, selfish and immature particularly when there are people with far, far worse issues and dire circumstances than me 😞 I also don’t want my children thinking I hate them. I don’t know what to do.

You need a break from the treadmill.
Is there any way to give yourself a short time to recuperate? You won’t get annual leave/sick leave if you’re running your own business but book yourself an imaginary Mon to Wed and just rest.

Then work the rest out.
Focus on the kitchen and bathroom. Use paper plates for a couple weeks to save energy.
Buy some extra uniform so you don’t need to be as organised.
Consider a cleaner- if the house is currently cluttered just ask them to do kitchen, bathroom and change bedding.

I think how you are feeling is not uncommon.

Thank you! I definitely need to schedule a break! Just tackling kitchen and bathrooms sounds good too and paper plates. Lots of speedy, simple meals being planned too. Feeling better already 😊

Realistically, what could your DH do to help? There must be something that he would agree is necessary that he could take on as a regular task? Just telling you not to things is neither kind not helpful.
Failing that perhaps he could take over his own washing and ironing for example. Perhaps you could have a think about some things you could just not do, seeing as this is his advice.