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What is wrong with me

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UninterestedDad · 06/10/2022 11:41

I'm 38 and married with a DS 9 and DD 4. I feel my life has and is incredibly boring. I suffer with Emetophobia (fear of vomit) and I'm so uninterested in doing anything/seeing anyone and my wife and kids just irritate me. I don't organise days out, I'm just useless at that kind of thing, I've got no imagination. I lose my temper very quickly and just say no all the time. I have been on antidepressants but I weaned myself off a year or so ago because they were making me so tired and unresponsive. All I want to do is sit and play computer games or spend money on myself. I'm constantly forgetting things and not thinking things through, we went away for a few days and had a mini fridge with all our food that we had just purchased. I unplugged it to charge the children's tablets up, didn't even think what I was unplugging. Needless to say we lost all the food. My wife went nuts and I couldn't even say sorry. My wife tells me it's like talking to a teenager when she speaks to me. I'm in full time work ( which isn't very for filling or taxing) and all my wages go into the wife's bank account to pay for the day to day living) I just feel empty.

Not sure where to go what to do, my relationship with my wife is non existent, we don't have sex, I just can't be botherd to initiate it and she never tries.

Am I selfish, depressed,useless

OP posts:
Eyesopenwideawake · 06/10/2022 11:44

You're certainly depressed. Can you remember when you started feeling this way?

Lochjeda · 06/10/2022 11:44

You need to go see a doctor. Has these feelings and lack of motivation for life been recent years or have you always felt like this for a long time. What were your teenage years like. Have you ever had full blood tests done and your hormone levels checked?

Farmhouse1234 · 06/10/2022 11:47

Depressed. Apathy. Memory problems sound like lapse of attention - which is common in low mood, rather than memory difficulties you’d see in organic problems.
Google your local IAPT service and get some help. Failing that, Google behavioural activation.
sorry you’re feeling so bad, have hope it can and will change if you can summon some energy to get help

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