Help please

[EmmaH2022]

Lonely and tearful. AGAIN. So sick of having no support. So sick of being no one's priority.

Just never wanted one
not really interested in that sort of relationship
ive had them but half heartedly

I wish I could go and live in one of those all female communities but they are rare as hen’s teeth.

Me too! A female friendship village would be the dream

sounds a great idea, have your researched this?

Do you want to share how your day has been?
Or tell us a bit more about you?
Lots are here listening.

The all women communities- not really researched but the one in north London has a waitlist a mile long and I think it might be for retirees only.

Parbados that’s really kind
I’m honestly not a pathetic soul, just so low and lonely
I have good work and a few hobbies so I’m not too dull to go out with hopefully.

very overweight so tackling that but it’s slow. If there’s really a lot of lonely middle aged men around, as per another sad thread going at the mo, perhaps I’ll find a companion.

but it’s probably better to just learn to accept my lot.

I’m going to watch Downton or something cosy now. Thank you all for listening.

Why not use your energies on building new friendships and a wider social circle than on a boyfriend you don't want? Surely this would make you more lonely, being in an unhappy relationship and unfair on any potential partner, knowing your heart is not really in it?

Friendships will allow for more of an interesting and varied life outside home and work than a 1-2-1 unhappy 'romantic' relationship

Enjoy your Downton watching.
I hope things feel a bit better for you tomorrow.

You don't sound at all pathetic by the way 💐

Tried that
not much help and I will still probably end up being no one’s priority

Thank you. I feel really bizarre. If you’d said in 2019 that my life would be how it is now, I would wonder what I could possibly do to alienate good friends. But lockdown and the aftermath has rendered my life unrecognisable.

Hopefully you're asleep now. What are you up to today??

how was your life before, and what do you think has changed it?

and, how exactly would you like it to be?

Morning
thanks again
working today

it was lockdown ruined things, I was flourishing before that.

anyway, I have to face things as they are and that's all really.

I will leave the thread now so I don't set myself off again.

thank you all, I really appreciate the support. MN is not vipers, no matter what anyone says, it's a great place.

How are you today @EmmaH2022 ? Hope today has been OK for you x

@Catmom86 thank you for thinking of me
I didn't see this before. I wasn't busy this weekend but distracted by a broken tooth, of all things.

I am better. Definitely thinking about trying to partner up. I will need to lose weight before I brave speed dating or whatever but that is happening, slowly.

some work contacts got married today, they're in their 50s. I'm not looking for marriage 😂 but would like to have someone who actually cares.

hopefully I won't get myself in such a low state as last week. No social stuff till this Friday.

finally heard from so called best friend today. No crises, she just didn't fancy replying to me till two weeks had passed. I wouldn't be surprised if her mum nudged her to it either.