Could do with some support - think DH is depressed

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Hi all

DH has been feeling low and not been himself for months now and recently told me that he thinks he needs to see a counsellor

Basically i think it comes down to the lack of support he got/gets from his parents. We had a turbulent engagement and he feels that he may have gone through with the wedding due to not feelling he would have got support from his parents if he didnt.

A few months after the wedding, his parents had a total break down in front of him and listed everything my parents did wrong at the wedding - which he kind of felt was a 'told you so' and as a result, he started resenting my family and feeling he let his parents down.

Ever since, he feels he's kind of been on a runaway train and that our beuatiful house, dd, etc are maybe not what he wanted - that he's looking in from outside and that he's running on empty.

His relsp with my family is crap - he now also resents his own family for effectively screwing up things for him.

I love him but have almost got used to living without the real him. I dont want it to end but sometimes feel so frustrated and anger and resentful :-(

Ironically my friends are always saying what a great life I have, great DH etc.

I'm struggling to stay positive and need some tips....

Thanks MNers

xx

Hi HYCH

Im so sorry to read about what a tough time you are having at the moment with your dh. It does sound like he needs to talk to someone and perhaps it would be helpful if you do as well, it sounds like things are very hard for you.

You can usually be put in touch with a cousellor through your doctor, or perhaps you could try relate, as a lot of the issues sound like they are relationship based as well, if he doesnt want to go to relate perhaps you can go on your own, talking things through with someone neutral is helpful and theraputic.

Im sorry I cant be much help but hopefully someone else will be along soon with more suggestions