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Can't stop crying

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Metabigot · 23/09/2022 17:17

I've had a terrible year and been betrayed by two long term friends who I thought cared about me. Known them 20 years, one did the reading at my wedding.

I had a slight falling out with one friend back in April and have tried to make it up but she's blocked me off/ghosted me on all SM. Now the other one, who wasn't originally involved but is closer to the friend than me, has followed suit I can only think to show loyalty to friend 1 as we never fell out as such . I never even discussed the dispute as didn't want to involve her but friend 1 must have badmouthed me or made it out to be my fault. I honestly can't think of anything i've done wrong. Not insulted her, said something she took the wrong way.

I've had enough. How can people I supposedly trusted over half my life shut me out without even a chance to explain why. I feel like they've ganged up/joined sides. Ghosting is the worst. Just can't understand it and feel like how did my once nice friends turn on me. I was bullied at school and it's triggered some sort of reaction as I just keep feeling intense pain and crying.

I feel like how can I ever trust anyone to be my friend again. I gave them so much over the years, tried to be there in their times of need and then when I was having a hard time (at work) they didn't want to know.

I had a picture of the three of us taken years ago in a bar and I smashed it to smithereens with the heel of a shoe, as it honestly represents how i feel.

What do I do now, I can't stop feeling sad and bursting into tears

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Metabigot · 23/09/2022 20:02

Bumpety bump

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Metabigot · 23/09/2022 21:28

I guess this is a sign that I have to find resources within myself to help myself

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Suzi9989 · 23/09/2022 21:43

Accept the friendship has run its cause. Grief, sounds silly but you need to be kind to yourself. I have been where you are now just over a year ago. Things are easier now, they no longer come into my thoughts. I have made peace with it, you will make room for new people who are worth your time and energy 💐

Elvira2000 · 23/09/2022 21:56

I am so sorry this happened to you. I have no real advice, just can share your pain. I was let down by someone i thought was a friend. Very painful. But nothing like you have gone through though. They say broken friendships are can be the most painful of relationship betrayal.

Chin up. Do all the shit you know helps mental health - walks in nature, distraction, eating healthily, etc etc. Time dulls all pain. I hope it gets better for you Flowers

Metabigot · 23/09/2022 21:57

Thank you. Its hard to accept but if things aren't working naturally then they can't be forced. I just wish I'd been able to get closure but I guess that's not usually possible if the lines of communication are broken.

I'm taking it as a sign to step back and work on myself. I have counselling set up

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