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Im at the end of my tether, and don't know what to do......................

9 replies

emzzzzz · 24/01/2008 14:12

Hi girls, I'm sorry to post such a negative thread when I haven't been a member for long, but I am feeling so low, I just don't know what to do with myself.
My GP has diagnosed me with chronic fatigue syndrome, and it's really getting me down.
I've had depression on and off for 8 years, since having my kids, and last year I was pretty stable and feeling loads better. Now because of this illness I am limited to what I can do, have absolutely no energy, and am feeling terrified that I am getting very depressed again. I just can't see a reason to go on, I have nothing to offer to anyone, and I am tempted to just take a load of pills - at least then the pain will go away.
Please help me girls, I need some kind words, and sensible advice.
Thanks, Em xxx

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naturalblonde · 24/01/2008 14:18

Em, don't really have any words of wisdom for you but didn't want your post to go unacknowledged.

You do have a reason to go on - your children. They need you, and hopefully it will get better soon.

Hugs, NBx

gloriana · 24/01/2008 14:44

There is definitely a better way than to end it with pills. You are a strong woman who has fought back from depression before and not let it beat you, you can't let it grind you down this time. The pain that you would cause to all that love you would be devastating - to the point that they would never get over it. You can be strong again - but you need support. Can you see a therapist / counsellor who could help you with your feelings? You could also talk to your partner / close friend who might be able to give you the support you need.

Hang in there honey.

mollyjoe · 24/01/2008 15:46

Havent really got any words of wisdom either but please do hang in there. You have taken the step to tell MN how you feel please talk to you DP or a close friend. You have got something to offer you have got the love you feel for your DC. Please think of them they need you.

Just want you to know that I am thinking of you & that there is others on here that can offer better words of wisdom than me.

But big hugs & I will keep checking in to see how you are getting on.xxx

blanki · 24/01/2008 18:18

Please em, you can do this. Speak to your gp and get some help to cope with this difficult time. I have taken pills, ended up with liver damage etc etc and still didnt die. Actually all I wanted was to feel less pain. Now I feel less pain AND have a ds into the bargin. Im not RC, but looked at therapy like confession (dont mean offence) in as much as it was confidencial (sp?) and I wouldnt be judged. It was VERY hard at the beginning, but it was worth it.

Im sure that you feel rubbish. But, you only get one mum and how would your children cope without you? In my experience an ill mum is better than no mum.

Health and happiness
Stay strong

stripeytiger · 24/01/2008 18:36

em, just wanted to offer my support too. I posted a thread on Sunday evening in the lone parents section and felt like you, I just couldn't see any light at the end of the tunnel and got as far as getting tablets out. However, I know that there is no way I could do that, I have two adorable children and they need me.

Not sure what your situation is, but please don't give up. Try and get as much family support as you can and don't be afraid to ask for professional help. Keep talking on here, I have always found mumsnet a huge source of comfort when you need honest, sensible and sincere advice.

Keep posting Em, big hugs xxxxxx

blanki · 24/01/2008 19:17

Stiger, soryy things are tough for you. Hope you are feeling a bit better. Sometimes just a bit of time helps a bit. You must be a strong person to offer support to others when you feel so bad. I found helplines a great support at these times. You can talk where nobody knows you. Samartians 08457 909090

hellobellosback · 24/01/2008 19:47

I really hope things get better for you. I know quite a lot of people who've suffered from chronic fatigue. One friend said a while ago that she felt unbearably debilitated and useless. She's still with us and getting better. Please bear with it. I don't have CF but I was in hospital for quite a long time at the end of last year. It's tough living with exhaustion, but it does get better, really it does.

There's a lot of stuff on the BBC website. I was trying to find my friend who was interviewed for some programme about it. Please hang on in there!

hellobellosback · 26/01/2008 10:36

How are you today em? Please will you post again soon? Thinking of you and hugs to you ((((()))))

SaltireOShanter · 26/01/2008 10:48

I have Fibromyalgia, and one of the symptoms of it is chronic fatigue. you could well be getting depressed again, it has the effect on some people. it is depressing not being able to hve the energy to do very much. You need to see your GP, and ask him for some ADs. You don't say if you take any at the tminute, but I think you should see him. I take one called Amitryptiline, I only take a small dose, 20mg a night which helps my sleep, and in turn helps (admittedly only slightly) with the pain I get. I do get chronic tiredness as well with my Fibro, but I think the Amitryptiline helps me there as well, because I could get very low and fed up, but I don't - or at least not all the time.

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