Relationship drama

[Hairbaby]

Hi 1st time posting here so need help! Happily married to DH. Been together 20 years. 3 children. So in love. He is obsessed with me quite literally. Tells me how beautiful I am, how much he loves me about 100 times a day. We have a very active sex life. Relationship is perfect except my worries! For the past few months I just think he looks at other woman! I do not know where it’s come from! I know I’m the only one for him! Yeah Iv saw him had the odd glance at a pretty woman. I know it’s just human but I can’t help feeling sick to my stomach about it. He always makes me feel like the prettiest woman in any room! Iv turned into something I’m not. I’m crying everyday feeling so low. I’m not happy with my body so I think it’s coming from that. I HATE my body but he is constantly telling my he loves it and fancies me like mad but I just can’t stop thinking about him looking at other woman! It’s driving me insane. I’m hardly eating! I have major anxiety. I don’t know if it’s a hormonal thing and I have never felt like this before. Such a change in me! Help please!!

I'd suggest having a chat with your GP to get your bloods done, you may well be peri-menopausal which can cause your brain to go a bit haywire.

What's wrong with your body (in your opinion)?

I’m not “fat” but had 2 sections and been left with an overhang which I’m so conscious of. I work out but haven’t the past 2 weeks as I feel so down. I feel horrible in a bikini so when we were on holiday I was so low but tried to keep it together for the kids. Dh is ALWAYS complementing me so I don’t know why I’m feeling like this. I’m getting bloods done today but the said I’d be to young for peri-menapausal. I just feel so low and cannot get out of this!

From your OP - "Yeah Iv saw him had the odd glance at a pretty woman." How did you know she was pretty? Is it because you looked at her too? But I guess you're not thinking of having sex with her, so why should your husband?

Do you both look at lovely houses and head-turning cars? Doesn't mean you're going to move or buy another car - you are just admiring a thing of beauty. Same goes for people (and babies and dogs!). It really doesn't mean anything.

Yeah I suppose when you put it like that. It’s been driving me insane! I know he wouldn’t be interested in any other woman at all. I just don’t know where this has came from. It’s like a switch has been flicked and I’m just major paranoid and it’s taking over my life. Iv never felt like this before! Feel like it’s a hormonal thing but doctor won’t test as I’m to young at 38!

If you can afford it go private for a full checkup. If there's nothing else going on in your life then it's more likely to be something out of kilter in your body - probably nothing sinister but worth checking out. In the meantime try lightening the mood; when you go out have a private (and discreet!) game of spotting the best looking person in the room, but with a twist - he has to look at the men and you the women!

You need to speak to a gp. Medication will stop you being so irrational and bring you back to yourself