Living with my dad whilst mentally ill

[Daisy2303]

Hi,

Im new here so I hope I’ve got this right.

I have struggled with my mental health all my life and I’m quite unwell at the moment. I’m diagnosed bipolar, adhd and autistic.

I lived alone before with my ex but sadly I got really poorly and rather than being sectioned I agreed I’d move back home to live with my dad again.

I fell pregnant with my exs baby at the start of the year and I’m due in November, but sadly I was being domestically abused so I’ve been told I’m not allowed contact with him.

My dad has a new girlfriend and they’ve become very serious recently, he’s never at our house anymore, when I wake up he’s out, when he comes back home he goes to bed and then the cycle repeats itself.

I honestly have never felt so lonely in my life, not only do I miss my ex even though he was horrible to me, my dad is never here and I don’t have the support I got previously when I felt mentally unwell.

I feel like I’m a hinderance in my dads life currently and I’d like to leave and leave him to it but I know if I tell anyone I’d like to live alone they’ll stick me in an mbu because the only reason I’m allowed to stay in the community currently is because of living with my dad.

However on the other hand my mental health is getting worse every day because he’s never here to help, so maybe I’d be better off in an mbu? I felt like my dad was my saviour before but now I feel completely the opposite.

I didn’t know if anyone could suggest anything I can do or maybe just say something to me so I don’t feel as alone as I do now, sorry I hope that’s okay.

Firstly, please don't apologise and of course its OK to reach out and ask for support.
Its sounds like you're going through a really tough time without much support, although it does seem like you have some professional help going on in regards to your mental health who helped you make the decision to stay with your dad rather than some sort of residential unit.
I think whats important here is, if and while you have a choice, where would you feel the most secure and comfortable? If you're not getting the help you feel you need right now, even before your gorgeous DC is born, please consider being open and honest with your family and/or any support system you have now so you will be in the best position to make the most of you and your DC's future.
I'm honestly not trying to say things are going to be easy, but to recognise your situation as it is now and to understand you need extra help and support is not a negative thing, but a truly strong and brave thing to admit.
I wish you and your DC a long, happy and wonderful future.

I'm really sorry that you're going through this, OP. What type of support do you need from your Dad? If it's simply spending more time with you, I'd be open about this and ask him whether he can do that. 24/7 support from him isn't feasible, though, so I'd also find out whether you can receive any more support from other sources (community mental health nurses, for example). My own Dad suffered a breakdown this year and the community nurses have been great. Wishing you all the best.

Is an MBU a mother and baby unit?