Feel so alone

[Wonderingwhattodo27]

The title sums it up really.
A bit of background:
Single mum to 17 year old dd.

Both parents passed away years ago.

no local friends.
pleasant work colleagues but nothing in common outside work so wouldn’t socialise.
Only family is my sister who I used to see regularly but now she hardly communicates with me possibly due to difficulty in her own life.

i don’t make friends easily and do need my own space. I’m quite happy doing some things alone but can would like occasional company.
Tried joint social groups but found them very cliquey and issues with men messaging me whilst seeing others.
i try to communicate with my sister but she clearly hasn’t wanted to /doesn’t feel able to reciprocate.
I date occasionally but don’t often meet anyone I want to see regularly.
Any thoughts?

Bump?

Sorry, don't have much advice, but wanted to reply.

Sounds like you really have been making an effort to Improve your situation, so it must be disappointing that it hasn't worked out.

It sounds like you have been doing the right things. Maybe you just haven't found the right groups? Could you give that another go? Maybe try a totally new / different hobby.

Also, please keep trying with your sister.

Similar situation here but it doesn't bother me much :)
I work with much younger people (20s), I'm the only one with children so nobody can relate to my problems when I need to leave the office for a few hours (sick leaves, doctor's appointments, school, etc). They are all great and we get along well but out of the office, they don't hang out with me.
Tried a hundred things to meet new people but I'm always the outsider. I have the same feelings towards groups so I'm not even trying. I'm not the most social person either, to be honest. I'm happy at home reading or watching Netflix, I also love going hiking alone.
The older I get, the more difficult it is to meet new people as everyone has their groups of friends from high school or childhood. I don't like to force friendships because it never works. I do join team buildings and trips at work because they are mandatory but I don't enjoy them. I have a lot of opportunities to be social with them and do things but I don't have their young energy anymore :D
I don't have any good advice to meet people but my point is that things can't be forced and sometimes your own company is the best company. Try to find things you enjoy and eventually you will meet similar minds.
Or get a dog. A friend of mine got a dog and made tons of friends in the park. It works, apparently.

Op💐 are we sharing a life! I feel exactly the same. DM me if you would like to.