not sure where this belongs.

[BeMyLilBaby]

Sorry this is long

WEll DP came home upset last night because two of the project managers have complained to his line manager that he doesnt work quickly enough, althoiugh his manager was nice about it and understands there was too much work for one person (having recently employed an assistant for him) i still got a bit stressed about it and told him he ahs to buckle down and not ring his mum n dad from work, which i dont know why he does anyway???

I spose im just paranoid about one of us lossing our jobs again, because i was made redundant last year and the stress of it was what i believe caused me to MC - it cant be coincidence that it happened the same week?? i spose i just worry.

Also the whole situation with my mum is stressing me out, DP has broken her laptop and although she isnt the type to be really bothered about it as it was an accident and she only had it as a spare, i dont wanna tell her its broke, also i still have to tell her we cant go on hol with her, and thats playing on my mind because we've really drifted apart lately, she is more interestede in her BF than me but i still fell i need her?

Add to that the general stresses of working etc, and the feeling that ive drifted apart from a best friend of 11 years (she's at uni and im in FT work) and i think there you have it...

ANy opinions? even if its just to tell me to pull myself together x

Hey, you have a lot on your plate at the moment. No wonder you're feeling down.

You are carrying around worries and a problem shared in a problem halved...so tell you mum about the laptop, tell her you can't go on holiday BUT then and there organise something else to do with her - family Sunday lunch or something perhaps with just the two of you. Be honest - tell her you would like to spend a bit more time with her - she might not realise how are you feeling.

I can understand how you feel but I have learned worrying about things that may never happen is a waste of energy. It is best to concentrate on the good and positive and try to make small changes if you need to. Have a conversation with your mum about things and be honest. I am sure she will understand and be supportive and you will feel a whole lot better for it.

I have a best friend who I hardly ever see but we keep in touch all the time by phone, e-mail, sending cards etc. Having a best friend is lovely even if you dont see them all the time. And you must remember that people change etc but this does not mean that you are drifting apart...it just means that you both have different things going on in your lives.....

thanks for the advice, deep down i know worrying about redundancy is silly, nothing i can do etc... just worries me as DP and i are looking to ttc later on this year.

I do still text my bf every two days or so its just sad to feel like were loosing each other, we did live together for a year, and i do accept were both just growing up.

my mum does know laptop wasnt working and she didnt seem angry, i spose its the holiday business im dreading. WOuld you tell her over the phone or in person?

In person if you can...always nicer and then you can chat about other stuff to, over a cup of tea and a bit chocolate cake!! Try not to worry, it will be fine and I am sure your mum will appreciate that you have been upfront and honest with her...x

thanks for answering me, i think im just a natural worrier, but im going to sort things sooner rather than later, take DP with me so he can say sorry bout the laptop too! x

And perhaps fix up some dates to see your BF to see her. It is hard when friends go in different directions but it can be fun to see how each others lives are going - could you stay with her one weekend? Have a "student" weekend?!

i might do that actually, i dont think deep down i am that bothered about her, not meaning in a nasty way, i think the only reason im thinking of it is because im just having one of those "woe is me" days x