Is it me or them or both?

[GMPlus1]

I've been feeling pretty low of late during pregnancy. I have a small group of friends who I speak to fairly regularly. I've recently reached out to some of them hoping to catch up but I'm getting nothing back (two have ignored me for about a week now) and the rejection is painful. To the point where I am thinking what is the point in my existence anymore. I know it's extreme, but I thought I meant more to them than this. The low mood is not helping, normally I can just ignore the catastrophic feelings and wait for a reply.

However at the moment I cannot. Do I just have to accept that they're busy/less invested in the friendship? Do I keep chasing? I don't know who to talk to anymore if my so called friends have had enough of me.

When you reached out, was if to a group or to one or two friends individually? Were you really clear about how low you’re feeling at the moment? I’d choose one person and try to be really open about how you’re feeling and that you really would value seeing them. They are probably just busy and haven’t realised how tough things are for you. When you’re down, it’s easy to take things personally that really weren’t meant that way

Being pregnant is exhausting OP, try not to let things overwhelm you even more. I understand it’s hurtful to be ignored, I’d feel the same. Just have a last week or so of being just you. By the time baby comes you might be the one forgetting to respond because you’re genuinely busy and/or exceptionally tired.
Hope everything goes well and good luck on journey ahead! I’m sure your friends will get back to you soon.

Is your midwife aware that you’re feeling low? There can be support for mums to be when they’re in the position you are. Your gp would be a good place to try as well.

Do they have children? If so a week really isn't that long not to reply to someone.

Even if they don’t, life can be busy. Children aren’t the only reason that people can have lots of stuff in their lives.

@GMPlus1 So sorry you are feeling this way. Just wanted to tell you that since having two DC, now 7 and 4, I am terrible at replying to messages. It is absolutely not that I don't care, I love my family and friends to pieces but I am pulled in a million directions and I never seem to get a minute to reply, especially if it's something like agreeing a date - where I need the calendar, to locate my diary, check with husband etc. I may be a bit of a crap friend but I do try, and I always reply eventually!! Hope this might make you feel better, that it's less about you and probably more about them Xxx