My husband told me he is on the verge of a nervous breakdown and is on medication and seeing a therapist.
He keeps everything to himself and doesn’t want to talk about any of it with me or share anything in general, he doesn’t speak about work, his feelings… he doesn’t really like talking. His nervous breakdown is due to work and he says he is happy with our relationship and has told his therapist as well that we have a happy family life and that’s not the cause for his mental breakdown.
I can’t say I am as satisfied with our relationship as I don’t actually feel we have one, but somehow it has worked for us. He works works works and I have been looking after the family. I enjoyed and been grateful to having someone who has been able to provide so that I have been able to concentrate on having time with our children. Now I am starting to crave going back to work and I have found a passion career I want to pursue and can’t even talk about it to him as he will just snap at me straight away. He told me straight off that even if he is not working he will not be helping with childcare even 1 a week which I found upsetting for him to say so abruptly, I do wish he would be more supportive as I have been with him, but I do know a childminder who has space for our youngest. I don’t know if I should just plan my work and childcare without discussing it with him as I am not able to speak to him about it atm. I am an adult so don’t need his permission.
I do wonder if he doesn’t want me to go to work as he doesn’t want me to build a life separate from him. I am happy staying with him until the children have grown but don’t really see us having a future once they have flown the nest.
he says he took this week off to spend time with us, he hasn’t and I got sick waiting around for him so just planned activities with the girls and told him he can come if he wants to, he didn’t.
At the moment he is so unpleasant to be around anyways, I rather stay in a different room to him. I find it hard to understand what is going on with him as he doesn’t tell me anything. Has anyone experienced a nervous breakdown or anyone’s family member had one?