Lack of confidence is making it hard to make mum friends

[Anxiousmumlife]

Good evening. I am a mum to a 2 year old boy and am expecting my 2nd baby in October. I have been feeling so lonely recently. I would love to have some mum friends to talk to but i mainly have mums i know through playgroup but most have older children and already have friendship groups whereas i have nobody. I just feel a little lost, it would be great to have someone to chat to occassionly.

@Anxiousmumlife Sending you hugs.

Sorry you are feeling so lonely. I have similar worries as I would like to make new friends or become closer to people, but think that they all already have strong friendship groups and would not want to spend time with me. This is not true though.

Couldn you invite one of the playgroup mums for a play date? Or to go to soft play together? What's the worst that could happen?

Also is there a way to meet other pregnant women who are due close to you? We had NHS antenatal classes and then carried on with weekly meet ups once the babies arrived. Lots of new mums will be looking to get out of the house regularly and would welcome a new friend with a baby the same age. Their current friendship group are not all going to be on maternity leave able to meet up any time.

If there is nothing like that is there a community Facebook page you could post on, asking if there are meet up groups for pregnant women / new mums. Or if anyone would be interested in starting one? Even if it just once every few weeks meeting for a coffee. I'm sure there will be other people close by in a similar situation, perhaps they have recently moved to the area?

Please be brave and try and reach out to others. I understand what it is like to have low confidence, but people will be flattered that you are keen to get to know them better. You don't need to become their new best friend, but just get to know them a bit better.