mum passed away 2months ago and im 6months preg with a 2 n half year old

[buzzzybee]

My mum passed away two months ago we was very close.She was a single mum i have a 13 yr old sister,15yr old brother and a 27 yr old sister whos took them on,i argue a lot with my older sister so its hard for me to visit them like i use to as i always had my mum there and she would defuse the situation if i got out of hand,ha. Im a worried all the time type of person and she always calmed me down so now i dont know wat to do! does ne1 know of some nice toddler groups? i really need to get out the house for her sake and mine! or is ne1 in the same sort of situation?

buzzzybee, I am so sorry for the loss of your Mum. Losing a parent is a huge life event and difficult enough with the complication of your relationship with your sister it must be doubly difficult. Can I suggest that you contact Cruse. You need some support right now and they can be immensely helpful.

www.crusebereavementcare.org.uk/

thankyou i will i really need help its getting a bit much

I can only empathise with your loss. I lost my mum just under a year ago, and it hit me hard, and like you have sibling difficulties.

I can only say that it will get better, being able to cope I mean. I cant give much advise as how to do it as I sort of winged it myself, but I never thought I would find a way to cope but I have. Make sure you have people around you to talk to, either CRUSE, or friends, GP. Personally my GP was supportive.

Thankyou. Its a long story but im having problems with my doctors because ive put in a complaint. My mum was house bound and wasnt treat fair,she had an infection,when the doc did eventually come out they said it wasnt serious and a few days later my mum passed away. Im going to change doctors because about 4 of the doctors there didnt help my mum. Ive had deppresion a few times in my life with panic attacks and so on but my mum was the only one who calmed me. Im going to try to be stronger 4 my little one and the new1

Sorry to hear bout ur mum how old r ur children? christmas was hard

Buzzzybee, I have just passed the second anniversary of my Mums death and my goodness I wailed for England that night
My advice is look after yourself, look for support if you have none and don't make any major life changes in the near future. I have come to the conclusion that one never really gets over losing ones loved ones one just, eventually, learns to live with the hole that their absence creates. Take care {{{{}}}}

Im sorry to hear that winnie. My mums 49th bday was on 5th jan that was hard,i wish i bought my mum all the flowers i do now! have u been on the website gone to soon? its so nice i put my mum on there and it helps alot cos evey1s in the same boat, it sort of lets u celebrate the life of the person u lost x

buzzzybee, celebrating your Mums life is very important. Don't live with regrets. Concentrate on all the happy times and good things you had.

buzzzybee I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my mum on 30th Jan last year and am still reduced to tears on a daily basis, I miss her so much. Her death however seems to have bought my sister and I a lot closer, not initially but more recently. Its still early days for you both, and your sister has the added stress of having to cope with the grief you are all feeling (I dont know if written that makes sense, but as the oldest child in my family I found it incredibly hard to see the pain my sister and brother were feeling) Giev it time and try to make your peace with your sister, you only have each other to rely on now and I'm sure she could use the support just as you could. I'm dreading the anniversary of my mums death and have no idea how or if it should be marked? It still feels incredible raw.

Buzzybee I lost my mum when I was 28 weeks pregnant. It's very hard, you have all my sympathy.

Birth of dd did help a lot, (although I didn't think it would), it gave me something else to think about. Dd now 18 months old, and I like to think my mum can see her.

Visit your gp as well, mine was v helpful, and put me on safe AD's which helped a lot {by safe, I mean suitable for pg)

Sorry to hear bout ur mum libel. I love my sister with all my heart but shes trusting a neighbour that my mum didnt like,the neighbour is takin over everything even answering my mums phone! my lil brother and sis are stayin at her house,b4 my mum died this women upset my mum,i just feel like they all bein unloyal. My sis let my little sis go to a niteclub 4 13 to 16 year olds and my mum would have definitely said no i dont want them to go off track but when i try to tell my older sis this she tells me to keep out theres only a yr between us. At 1st we was close but just lately we aer drifting apart and it herts like hell. When i go to there house the neighbours always there,my mum was a v private person and never had neighbours in i dont know wat to do but this stress is so bad

Hi fizzbuzz sorry to hear bout ur mum x ur mum is watching over u and ur little1 god gave u a baby as he took ur mum,thats wat i think x

Perhaps your sister is struggling to cope, and finds the neighbours interference actually helps her.

Perhaps your sister is struggling to cope, and finds the neighbours interference actually helps her.

Perhaps your sister is struggling to cope, and finds the neighbours interference actually helps her.

yeah i think she does but the neighbour is telling all the street our buisness,she stole my lil brother phone in the past and called my lil sis a pro 4 dressing in the latest fashion. My mum went crazy!

I agree with fizzbuzz - the neighbour is probably a welcoming distraction from being on her own with the kids? Letting you younger sister go to the nightclub was probably of benefit to both your sisters - time out for each of them. Its very early days for you all and I'm sure your sister doesnt want the children to go off the rails any more than you do.

I had huge arguements with my sister after the accident as I felt she was taking over the funeral arrangements (well, she just went and arranged it on her own!) but then that was her way of keeping busy. I understand now why she behaved in that way.

I know it can be hugely frustrating and little things can seem like huge massive things when you are trying to cope with such a loss.

The neighbour sounds awful! I can see why you are upset by her.

Yes we all deal with it our own way,i took a step bk to let my sis see this womens true colours for herself as i dont want to argue with her nemore as its not fair on the younger ones but hopefully we'll b close again and share laughs bout when we was young. I keep having dreams lately and in eveyone my mums sat on the sofa getting us to make peace with each other