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Mental health

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Social media makes me feel incredibly depressed about my life

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corriefan88 · 02/07/2022 17:55

I have had to make the decision to quit Facebook because it was really causing me to spiral even deeper into depression. I'm still dealing with the aftermath of an abusive relationship with a narcissist and my life is a bit of a mess. I've been pretty isolated the last few years due to just getting shit on over and over by people I thought cared, however I see people on social media having a great time with plenty of friends and a great social life. Maybe I'm feeling sorry for myself a little bit, but I feel like I'm the only one in this position sometimes.

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Tabbouleh · 02/07/2022 17:57

You are not the only one. Long since quit most of them. DD has a chronic and incurable illness, which is very debilitating. I have had to quit social media because I can't look at other people with healthy DC.

Molly876 · 02/07/2022 18:04

You're not the only one. I deactivated my facebook years ago. I think it's all smoke and mirrors though tbh, people love to showboat and it's pretty much a competition who's life is better when behind closed doors they are probably just as stressed or miserable as the rest of us lol.
Life is hard at the mo with inflation/covid and what not.
I just don't buy into and it got on my tits which is why I came off it.
And yeah, people are shit unfortunately.
I'm sorry you were in a relationship with a narcissist, I understand the trauma people like that can cause. They are totally F'd up.

JamSandwich89 · 02/07/2022 18:04

It's one of the big downsides of social media - you see other people's carefully curated highlights and compare it with your whole life. Social media is like a show, in that you don't see backstage or the rehearsals, just what's on the stage. You're certainly not alone feeling like that! I still have FB, but check it one a month at most. I know more and more people deleting their accounts (on Instagram etc too). Taking a step back sounds like a healthy move for you. Do you have a friend you can meet up with in real life? Go for a coffee? 💐

HiyaWishy · 02/07/2022 18:13

I'm deleting my Facebook also. It can be handy for finding out about events but seeing everyone else live their best lives can make you feel so low.
I was hurt this week by two friends registering their interest to a local(ish) event on the same day as a birthday party that I'd invited them too. I'd given them over four months notice but apparently on Thursday they might be interested in going somewhere else. They haven't actually acknowledged my invite either...
Like another poster, my DD is quite unwell just now, it's going to be long term though - not just a cold, and I am struggling seeing others having 'normal wholesome families.'

Molly876 · 02/07/2022 18:19

@HiyaWishy With all respect there's no such thing as normal really. Everyone has had a bad time at some point even if it's not obvious.
I'm really sorry to hear about your daughter 💐 and you're friends letting you down is rubbish but sod them it's their loss I'm sure. They don't sound like people I'd want to be friends with anyway.

Tabbouleh · 02/07/2022 18:32

There definitely is no such thing as normal but chronic illness in DC is very tough to see. I don''t envy other people their money, houses or holidays but I do envy them their good health.

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corriefan88 · 02/07/2022 18:41

Thanks everyone for your kind words, it's kinda made me feel less alone. @JamSandwich89 most of the friends I have live at the opposite side of the country now so I don't get to see them often unfortunately

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gingersplodgecat · 02/07/2022 18:42

People are not going to broadcast all the boring, mediocre, shit parts of their lives all over social media.

What you see on there is not people's real lives. I know someone who's had an acrimonius break-up with her toxic parents, a bereavement and got sacked, all within the last 3 months. You'd never know any of that from her FB pages, where she's apparently "Living my best life 😍💋💕xxxx "

Riapia · 02/07/2022 19:05

Going on SM should be treated like going to the theatre.
A fun diversion but not real life.

ninnynonny · 02/07/2022 19:09

Also quit fb recently as all I was seeing was utter bollocks about my last workplace
I left due to corruption, lies, toxicity and narcissism and it makes me so angry to see the fucking place feted so much .
Feel much better now and just use twitter which angers me in a much more productive way!

Celeryfavour · 02/07/2022 21:09

If you'd like a bit of mindless social media but involving people you don't know, get on tiktok! The algorithm is great, it shows you what you're interested in, no adverts and you can find a tribe in an anonymous way. There's a lot of content about narc exes, you'll fit right in! It's the total opposite of Facebook.

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