Suicidal after Abortions

[ShamefullPast]

I posted another thread about having had abortions . The depression and regret is totally crippling. It’s got so bad I think about suicide all the time . I’ve took away another persons chance at life so I don’t deserve a life either . It’s hard to explain just how much I regret my choices and I’d give anything to have those babies back .
Has anyone else felt suicidal after abortion and what did you do ?

Get some counselling OP. Call your GP today. You need to talk to a professional.

You haven't taken away someone else's chance at life. You've chosen not to bring a baby into the world you weren't in a position to raise.

And, I mean this kindly, please ensure your contraception is water tight so you don't have to go through this again.

Please get some support for your feelings. If you need help right now then you can go to A&E
Churches often have counselling services available if you feel well enough, but they would also encourage you to get support from your GP or crisis team.

I’ve already been through my GP and crisis team. I’m on anti depressants. There no chance of me getting pregnant again . The only thing I look forward to anymore is going to bed and sleeping so I don’t have to think about it all.

Hello. Just wanted to say you did not take another person's chance at life. You were not ready to have the babies at those times and that is alright. Many women choose an abortion. I was trying to find some information about abortion, when I had to make this difficult decision. It is so important what do you read about it. I thought I would regret it as I had no idea what abortion was. I had realised I was in a net of scaremongering and my knowledge was very limited.

It is important to read empowering information and testimonies rather than extremist views. Abortion is a completely normal procedure, you did what you needed to do at that time. Many women have done that and they do not regret it but you don't really read about it much online because they keep it to themselves. Normally, it is the women who do regret that seek some sort of help just like you are now. However, in my opinion our society is still very oppressing and that regret is what certain groups of people want us women to feel. Maybe your regret is not really your personal regret but rather you have been told by society that q women who proceeds with abortion, needs to feel bad.

I hope you find the truth, calmness and happiness and can get some counselling. You really do not need to live with this burden on your back. I wish you all the best.

You did what was right for you at the time. I can’t begin to understand how you are struggling right now but please look after yourself. I wish you all the very best.

Hello @ShamefullPast we'd really urge you to seek advice and support in real life - we don't think the boards are giving you what you need right now. Please contact the British Pregnancy Advisory Service for details of local support and also your GP, who can refer you to counselling services.

Please also take a look at our Mental Health resources. You can also go to the Samaritans website or email them on [email protected].

We also like to remind everyone that, although we're awed daily by the astonishing support our members give each other through life's trickier twists and turns, we'd always caution anyone never to give more of themselves to another poster, emotionally or financially, than they can afford to spare.

@CoffeeWonderful @Crying1everyday
Thankyou for your kind posts . It’s really helpful for me reading them . I’m currently trying to find a psychologist to help me. ❤️

I’m so glad you’re trying to get support. My only advice is keep holding on until you look around and life has colour again. It will happen, you just have to hold on, get the right help and keep holding on until it happens.

@Dancingwithhyenas
Thankyou . I don’t hold out much hope
anymore but never mind .

If you haven't already found support, you could call ARCH (www.archtrust.org.uk/) the Abortion Recovery Care Helpline

How are you doing today @ShamefullPast ? Thinking of you.

@Dancingwithhyenas
hi thanks for checking in on me it means a lot to me.
I spent a few days looking for a counsellor but there either full or cost to much for me . I’m already waiting for nhs counselling . So still the same really just feeling really depressed. I do often think about suicide but try to keep on going for my kids .

@ShamefullPast how are you doing?