H can be really mean, sometimes I reply sometime I ignore but always feel hurt. He gets mean over little things. And he won't leave it until he said mean things repeatedly and gets a reaction from me. If I don't give it he starts trying to hurt me in other ways - i.e. ruin my plans on which I partially depended on him etc.
He doesn't necessarily stick to his plans. He says this things usually In the moment of anger or irritation. And then he acts like nothing happened.
Is he just a jerk or is it some psychological disorder?
He had in the past mentioned about seeing a counsellor but now won't hear about it.
The thing is if it is a mental disorder I can justify staying with him for the good days we have too. But not otherwise